Lacerta on 11/10/2006 at 13:51
Well.. I don't have reams of advice, 'cos I'm not in a position to offer any. But you are thinking, which is the most important thing. You're self aware and are trying to make choices, rather than taking the easy way out by reacting, acting out, then blaming your circumstances - that way leads to going off the rails.
Being self aware, trying to make the right choice and realising that other people don't necessarily have the answers that you seek. Only good can come of that.
jimjack on 12/10/2006 at 18:15
Quote Posted by Shug
First things first; make sure you speak to your teacher well in advance of the deadline for your assignment, and he/she should be reasonably accommodating given your situation. QUOTE]
Well that was awkward. and not exactly in advance as its due tommorrow..but I spoke with my teacher after classes and when he asked my reasons for not completeing thestupid assignment for the first time ever I think, I couldn't come up with anything for almost two minutes. Then he asks if its because I'm adopted or...? So I originally thought to claim I was the product of an anonymous sperm donar minus other speculations I've had, but couldnt bring myself to say "sperm" to a teacher and kindof splagged around the whole issue. Got myself a minute of silence while he gathered a correct response here and earned myself not getting out of the assignment but half of it. damnit. Anyway he assured me that there is no doubt in his mind that I will develop into a "well-rounded individual"..whatever that means.
and that ends the business, just one more self-assured bastard in the world.:thumb:
Vigil on 13/10/2006 at 10:21
How hard is it to simply say to an objective adult (with a benevolent interest in your future) that you have a difficult family situation right now and are not on speaking terms with your mother or your father? That's all it would have taken. You're going to have to get used to explaining your family situation when it becomes relevant to other people... especially given you've already been able to tell an internet messageboard about it in much greater detail. It's not something you have to feel ashamed about - at least not around school authorities, who are quite used to students having difficult family situations.
jimjack on 13/10/2006 at 14:50
I did say something to the effect of not being in contact with my parents but it was obviously too evasive when he had to ask more into it. So I told him I knew nothing about my dad. Its not easy to be telling people about it if it becomes relevant to them. Unless someone else is in a similiar situation then let me know how you dealt with it. Otherwise life goes on and you deal with it.
It is easier to go into great detail about it on a messageboard. It was just a way to get it off my chest in a relatively anonymous manner. Thats all really.
> and getting some advice along with it helped alot too.
