Tocky on 27/8/2006 at 04:26
The best advice has been given but I still wanted to pat you on the back and say hang in there, lame as that is. I hope your mum will see what your best chance is and be selfless about it. It's going to be hard on you emotionally but I think the change will do you good. Chin up. It gets better. You would be surprised at how many mistakes a person can make and still have a happy crazy life.
jimjack on 10/10/2006 at 14:53
I didn't want to post a new thread but as a bit of an update more. Since I'm continuing my education here its seems I will be here in Canada for a while yet. Things are going well enough for me. But damn those insensitive teachers.. in Eng lit class the past week we were given an assignment that does not to accomodate me. Well I'll only have at half of the project done. Learn about your genealogy..Compose your family tree, incorporate dates and a description of each person. Research a 2-5 page research paper on your ancestry, nationality etc. Oh comeon this was all done back in grade three so why now? I have no idea of my biological origins apart from my mothers side. whom ive not spoken with for about a month. The whole business of me staying out here has not settled well with her and its been a source of having to field her phonecalls. But it seems I will have to bring up some issues with her. As well ill have to address the teacher on this too I suppose..I believe I have a right to know who he is, if at least for health reasons. then i found this(
http://www.law.com/jsp/article.jsp?id=1155114329121) http://www.law.com/jsp/article.jsp?id=1155114329121
This is intersting to me on many levels here. Any lawyers here or sage suggestions that can give me advice on not necessarily sueing anyone but asserting my rights here. She doesn't have any right to hold that from me or does she?? Wtf always something to have to reckon with. My mums out of touch.
Rug Burn Junky on 10/10/2006 at 15:04
Unfortunately, my hands are tied and I can't really give you any specific legal advice.
But I can say this: She can hold back whatever information she wants unless you actually take legal steps to compel her, but that's kind of a drastic step. It seems to me trying to force her may turn it into something she refuses to tell you out of spite.
jimjack on 10/10/2006 at 15:28
Well it doesn't sound fair enough to me, I may have to wait till I'm 17 to try anything involving the law I suppose. Shouldn't have to come to that. I think this whole thing reeks of a maury povich segment. Kind of clarty. Right well I'm dragging myself off to school in anycase the assignments not due till the end of the week. Thanks though. Right now I'm hating her for this and Im sure theres some legalty in disowning a parent.
theBlackman on 10/10/2006 at 19:41
Options:
1: Tell the teacher you are estranged from your mother and have no information and your mother will not speak with you.
2: If you know your fathers full legal name and possibly the place he was born, try a Geneology search for your family name on Google.
There are many sites that specialize in this type of information, many have extensive Data Bases of family names etc.
jimjack on 11/10/2006 at 01:57
I don't know anything about him. Only I inherited brown eyes and a slightly darker complexion then the rest of the family And now I don't think I give a shit. Not much I can do really.
That leaves me with the first option but thanks though.
Gorgonseye on 11/10/2006 at 02:01
Seems your in another predicament Jimjack, I'd offer advice, but, there's nothing I can say, nor offer that can help, all I can say is hope you get through ok JJ.:D
jimjack on 11/10/2006 at 02:07
Thats ok GE seems you are in your own predicament. Hope it works out. Dodgy dealings with lawyers and all..any word on that tutor yet?
Gorgonseye on 11/10/2006 at 02:11
Mmm not really, one will be coming soon, from what I'm told it's gonna be a guy{Darn it...}, and if someone doesn't come within a few days we should call the school.
Shug on 11/10/2006 at 03:50
First things first; make sure you speak to your teacher well in advance of the deadline for your assignment, and he/she should be reasonably accommodating given your situation. Of course, there's no reason for the rest of the class to know about it.
On the larger matter, perhaps the easier course would be to settle yourself in the short term before pursuing the matter of your heritage. Seeing as you'll be in Canada a while yet, chasing after your father in any way is a bit out of the question currently.
Without knowing anything about your mother, I suspect you'll have a far easier (and more productive) time of it getting these answers once you've reached your adulthood / majority.
