Scots Taffer on 29/7/2009 at 07:42
This is the subject of the next season of 24.
june gloom on 29/7/2009 at 08:57
are you drinking again
TBE on 29/7/2009 at 09:55
I'm drinking margaritas at 0330. Just got home from work at 0100. I think I messed up my recipe, cuz I'm getting hammerde. It's 1 part triple sec, 1.5 parts tequila, and 5 parts margarita mix.s
Wait, maybe I'vb got the tequila snd triple sec mixed up.
jimjack on 29/7/2009 at 15:35
^ I could use one, its going to be in the high 30 c's today. This is when I hate going to work.
TBE that is pretty amazing. I'm not sure I'd step out before a tv audience. It's the spending "years looking" part that is likely before I find him. But your brother if anything got closure and peace of mind. I'm glad it worked out for him.
My mum has given me such limited information either by choice or just that that is the way it is. I am impressed she knew the football team, the spelling was dogdy but Im going to have to ask her why that stood out in her memory being that sharp im sure there is more info I can get out of her. This is what I mean about keeping control of my peace of mind and not get all obsessive about this. I'm going to take a step away for a while, but now my girlfriend is already planning the best of Portugal. She is being quite dramatic about this as well.
Alot of He'ctors on that site and yet no Hiertos..alot. But the ages do not coincide, Im thinking if she got the age right he is going to be around 38 or 39, and the list thins out, but alot of these guys are scattered around in teams I'd never heard of. And I need to maybe put aside the thought he might even still play the game.
This is going to be a bit too extensive in terms of energy and emotions. If this happens, I'm going to write a book. After all it could become a bit of an obsession now. I've been reading similiar situations and everyone sounds either fanatical or desperate based on a first name, in some cases a last, a birthdate and very limited info. But it has been done.
Quote Posted by Tocky
you have to spit out and gargle to get the taste out of your mouth.
..just try telling my gf that.
omg sry.
lol
Like you say:
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If genes have anything to do with personality I can't imagine he would be too bad a guy.
He could also be having a perveted view of things much like me. But I am and have been interested about the biological lineage. And the ancestrol side now, and I think he will be just Thrilled if he knew about me! I have been thinking more and more about doubling up on birthcontrol so I will never know.
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And if nothing else the search will put you in touch with your history and people. Knowing that makes you feel as if you are the tip of a tall tree instead of just a leaf in the wind. Good luck peckerhead.
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And I never even thought about the writing/picture part. Lol I was thinking on showing up at his door!
thnx for all that!
Dia on 29/7/2009 at 18:28
Be careful jj; I agree with those who suggested that you contact your dad by mail first. A long time ago I was engaged to a guy who'd just found out who his biological father was and he dragged me along on a quest to find him. And find him he did. Unfortunately, the biological dad wasn't all that thrilled to find out he had a 20-something son. At all. The dad had a wife & five kids (they were born-again Christians of the fire/brimstone kind and the dad had twin boys who were only six months younger than my fiance) and the sudden appearance of a previously unknown son raised all kinds of hell between dad & his family. My fiance was told by his dad to go away and never come back; in fact the dad was not very nice about it. It's a scene that I can still remember and wish I couldn't.
Not quite the happy ending he was looking for. My fiance was depressed for a few months afterwards, but he managed to put it all behind him eventually.
So yeah; if you do locate him write first. And keep your expectations realistic.
jimjack on 29/7/2009 at 18:34
I knew I could get the voices of reasonings here! I am now prepared to recieve the advice from family alot better than I likley would have by announcing a trip to Portugal.
For sure I appreciate the responses. I feel this to be a pretty big alteration in the way my life has just been going along day to day. You know just nothing to make a huge impact on where you're headed..So I will keep ttlg updated after a time and you know I will, of keeping this more in perspective and not getting all emotional and overtaken by this whole thing. Just that damn!
