Briareos H on 6/4/2006 at 06:07

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Wanna try ? I'm free right now.

EDIT : oh wait you're a guy

EDIT 2 : it isn't really a problem is it

Rogue Keeper on 6/4/2006 at 09:00

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All that is disputable, that's why trans-generational relationshops between teenagers and significantly older partners are such a taboo. First we should stop generalizing such relationships and consider all their circumstances. There is an important factor of mental level, preferences and nature of both partners in such relationship, what environment they were growing up in, what preferences for opposite sex they have, what they seek in relationship. Afterall no relationship can efficiently work, unless both partners are attracting each other and are tuned on similar "frequency".

As you said, age of both partners would be an important factor, personally I think that the bigger age diference between partners, the more abnormal, uncommon, eccentric relationship would be.

Then I think we shouldn't see teenage girls as some totally innocent angels. Especially not today. Modern society is sexually very open, even excessively explicit. Teenagers have sex earlier than generations of their parents or grandparents, so they are getting sexually mature sooner. Some teenies are actually more mature than they age would suggest and they can be pretty seductive little monsters. Many of them dress and behave in a sexually provocative manner, intentionally or not (but rather intentionally). Talk about Lolita syndrome.
Trans-generational relationships seem to be more common in higher society and among celebrities. A girl or boy who's growing up in serious world of adults learns how to be mature sooner than his mates who are growing up among friends around their age. His/her intelligence is also important factor in how quickly he/she mentally grows up. And so they are getting involved with partners from the world of adults. There are cases of teenage girls who have almost gerontophilic love for older guys. I personally had a classmate in highschool, her father died when she was 15 and since then she was developing preference for mature guys. She admited that mature guys provide her a sort of compensation for her lost father. Now she's 26 and her boyfriend is around 50. She was after me one time too. I'm glad I resisted.

Extreme cases even think that daddy is hot.

But what about this obscure thing called "true love"?. They say that love blossoms in any age, sees no color - and also creates the most bizarre relationships. So is it possible that an early mature 15 years old "Lolita" and a 40 years old teacher would "truly love" each other? Sick people can love each other too. Bizarre? Sick? Abnormal? Eccentric? Possibly. Such are cases of forbidden love, and they can be actually enriching and refreshing for both sides.
Would be such relationship worth of eternal social condemnation, pointing fingers and punishment? Everyone must answer for him/herself. But then isn't it sick, to severely punish "true love"? And it often happens that those who are condemning trans-generational relationships most, are just secretly envious, because they would like to have such an attractive young partner too, yet can't obtain one. So they they better join the "normal" condemning crowd. Here we go, righteous social hypocrisy.

Then we have some thing called platonic paedophilia. This phenomenon is not uncommon between artists, writers, poets, painters and other "complex souls", many of them are otherwise appreciated by the society for they work. They were attracted to children not sexually, but aesthetically, mentally. For them, children are often source of inspiration. Or call it just excessive love for children. I think Michael Jackson is some sort of platonic paedophile. I'm not convinced he's a serious child molester.

To extend what Naartjie already implied... Evolutionary theories are concerned with factors that enable a species to survive, and it has been suggested that some sexual preferences are more likely to be easily learnt, specifically those that cause the offspring of any sexual union to have a better chance of survival. As youth is associated more highly with physical strength, and, apparently, more successful reproduction, sexual stimuli associated with youth could be seen as aiding the survival of the species by giving a better chance of survival to its offspring. Thus the theory suggests that sexual arousal in response to youthful characteristics could be biological rather than as a result of influences in the family or society. This theory does not account for the fact that the children involved are often below the age of reproductive maturation, so it doesn't apologize true paedophilia.

Most people don't think that many things are natural/acceptable, but most people are also don't see a larger picture of human sexuality, psychology and all it's nuances. People also love to generalize, stereotypize and make quick judgements. Without trying to apologize child molestation, I think everyone should consider that many paedophiles were also victims of sexual abuse in their childhood and could have been growing up in seriously disrupted family environment. Every doctor who specializes on such cases can confirm that. I think that just like in case of any other area of crime, society should beter focus on prevention rather than on punishment.

Rogue Keeper on 6/4/2006 at 11:03

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I feel similarly about women. Let's talk about Thief.
From this safe distance.

mr_luc on 6/4/2006 at 11:37

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foolinabox on 6/4/2006 at 13:07

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It was a trainwrek from the start. It that kind of a topic...




Do you think I would be saying any of this if I knew any of you? I dont think so... This topic simply touces a personal sorespot, so self controll is a bit difficult... Some peole here have so screwed perspectives.