D'Juhn Keep on 4/10/2009 at 22:56
Doing the opposite of the consensus TTLG advice is generally a good strategy
SubJeff on 4/10/2009 at 23:06
Quote Posted by Shayde
My fear really is less about the situation being unpleasant, and more about feeling like I'm finally caving into his control over every member of the family.
Sounds like pride messing with you a little. What is it that you
really fear? Look deep inside, face your fear, become it and other such Batman Begins and Dune nonsense.
Scots Taffer on 4/10/2009 at 23:39
Quote Posted by Shayde
My fear really is less about the situation being unpleasant, and more about feeling like I'm finally caving into his control over every member of the family. But then if that means my son can afford to have a sibling and a decent education, I can put on my big girl panties and get over it.
- Butch, Pulp Fiction
Self-sufficiency is a very important factor, but bear in mind you're recognising here that your father-in-law isn't the only way you and yours can get by... as you say, it's a bit of a struggle and you could keep plugging away at it, but by taking this fantastic opportunity you're putting yourself in a spot to have a better life period. And as a parent, I completely understand where you're coming from.
I hope your open discussion on the matter fares well for you.
Aja on 5/10/2009 at 01:25
I think the main issue here is that in one scenario you get a child, in the other you don't. Dealing with (potential) family politics is surely a price worth paying.
Kolya on 5/10/2009 at 01:50
Sounds like the plot of Rosemary's Baby. I say go for it. It's the only way to find out.
Chade on 5/10/2009 at 02:22
It doesn't sound like father-in-law is anything that you and your husband can't handle, presuming hubbie has your back when the arguments start.
My only other concern would be that, by having another baby, you might be making it hard to get out of the arrangement if it goes sour.
Still, there's a lot to gain out of this. Financial freedom is a massive plus. So is living with a bunch of closely knit families.
Personally, I'd live with my wife's parents without too much hesitation. I'd be a little worried about living with my grandparents though, as I think my wife would feel a lot of pressure from my mother.
SD on 5/10/2009 at 12:39
Self-sufficiency is an illusion anyway.
Queue on 5/10/2009 at 14:30
Quote Posted by Shayde
I think despite the massive lean here to "aww hell naw" we're going to tell them that we'd be grateful to accept the offer...
Why do I have the feeling that you were leaning toward this in the first place, and posted the question hoping that the majority of the responses would support that?
Not trying to be a dink, I just don't get it (if that's true).
june gloom on 5/10/2009 at 18:51
Quote Posted by Queue
Not trying to be a dink
too late
