Queue on 3/10/2009 at 18:26
Irrespective of the motives, it's still a bad idea made worse by the whole "either all the kids accept or no one gets it" notion.
Somehow, without really trying, you can suddenly become the "bad guy' in the situation either way you go.
Still, in my mind, it's better to stumble along on your own with your family (the one you and your husband have created), and not be indebted to anyone else.
henke on 3/10/2009 at 18:36
Quote Posted by Shayde
My husband says that if we took the offer we'd live there and pay off our current place while renting it out. We could pay it off much faster and then buy a second, larger property as our final family home. Although I'm sure there'd be a big fight when we wanted to leave.
This. But explain your intentions to the father-in-law right away. That way they'll have no cause to complain when you
do eventually move out. If he won't agree to those terms then fuck it.
BrokenArts on 3/10/2009 at 18:40
Quote Posted by Shayde
the stipulations and getting it in writing are great ideas.
Quote Posted by henke
This. But explain your intentions to the father-in-law right away. That way they'll have no cause to complain when you
do eventually move out. If he won't agree to those terms then fuck it.
If you do decide to do this, get it all in writing, make your feelings know, get everything out on the table. That way, no surprises, it will all be in black and white.
If it really can't be agreed upon, as henke said, fuck it. In these tough times, you have to do what you have to do. Do what is best for you, keep both eyes open. Weigh the pro's and con's, write it down if you have to, again, black and white.
PotatoGuy on 3/10/2009 at 18:49
And maybe a question that matters too... what does your husband think?
Shayde on 3/10/2009 at 18:59
PG - my husband is as undecided as I am. Although he manages the family trusts finances and as the whole deal will cost about R4mill I think he's hoping that they won't be able to pull it off for another year or so and that'll give us more time to decide.
Remember though that they are his family and not his in-laws, so that will naturally make it more palatable for him than me.
BrokenArts on 3/10/2009 at 19:14
You've got a lot to talk to your husband about, you've got time, don't make an hasty decisions. Take your time, you'll find your answer.
june gloom on 3/10/2009 at 19:40
As someone who is related to, has worked for, and has been the student of, no less than FIVE Captain Controls in my life, I say RUN WHILE YOU CAN.
Queue on 3/10/2009 at 19:48
Plus, Shayde, you're obviously having misgivings about this notion--I mean, you are asking for advice on the internet (plenty of stable and rational sages to be found on this thing).
If you are having any warning signs going off, any anxiety over this, then it is a bad idea.
A good idea you wouldn't have second thoughts about.
My dream is to have a little house in the country just for dethtoll and me.
june gloom on 3/10/2009 at 19:56
I'd like a little house in the country, and some dogs, and maybe some sheep, and a beautiful apple orchard fertilized by Queue's dismembered body parts.
AR Master on 3/10/2009 at 19:57
light a match off his face and put your cigar out on him to learn him his place
dont take smack from that bitch
