Turtle on 27/6/2007 at 20:12
Make sure you specify that any hanging out with friends she does happens off your property.
Also, rent is paid in ass.
Kolya on 27/6/2007 at 20:17
Wow, the hospitality in this thread brings tears to my eyes. A girl in your castle! Think of what she might do to the Picassos in the hallway! Jeez.
If you're really not comfortable with it, tell your friend, and ask if there is no other place for her to stay. But I guess they wouldn't ask you if they weren't at loss for another place. In which case you should act like a friend and accept. Imagine if you were in her situation.
Once you have her sitting down with a glass of wine, ask a few questions about life and how she lost her job. I'm not surprised that the reasons sound trumped up. Most people make up a little story when they lost a battle. See if it's just that. By then you may know how you want to proceed with this.
SD on 27/6/2007 at 20:51
We got a taxi home; she's here now and we're drinking cava.
My friend doesn't know where I live right now, which is a good thing cos he's been tapping her up for money from her savings, and this way he can't squeeze any more out of her. We all had a long chat before about how he needs to sort himself out, get therapy, etc. God knows if he's taking any notice (I suspect not) but you can't force people to help themselves.
She's a sound girl and apologetic about the way things are going. Her parents live miles away and she has a few interviews with law firms booked for next week, so obviously going back to stay with them is out of the question. I don't think she's the sort to outstay her welcome.
This has been an exceptionally tiring evening, and not in a good way.
Malygris on 27/6/2007 at 21:17
Quote Posted by Rug Burn Junky
I vote that you get her drunk and try to bang her by the second night.
Do this and report in immediately.
Aerothorn on 27/6/2007 at 22:35
I was going to make some reference to the blowjob thread....but I just don't have the heart. Hope things work out, SD.
Rug Burn Junky on 27/6/2007 at 22:45
Quote Posted by SD
* she's here now and we're drinking cava.
* My friend doesn't know where I live
* he's been tapping her up for money from her savings
* Her parents live miles away
Awwwww yeah.
You know what you have to do, give her a lil' lil' StD.
theBlackman on 27/6/2007 at 22:45
Quote Posted by SD
[...]My friend doesn't know where I live right now,[...]
Be sure that if he calls her
She doesn't tell him. But if she has been giving the money to him then it's likely she'll continue to as long as the "relationship" exists.
Good luck to you both, but I think your "mate" needs to get his shit together.
Fuegan on 27/6/2007 at 22:49
Don't you have like, a five bedroom house? Can't she have one floor and you have another and never really have to see her?
It's a shit deal all round though, I once had this guy stay for several weeks because another of my housemates thought he could do with a break. It was ok till he decided to try and tag along with a stag do I organised. That was pretty awkward.
dvrabel on 27/6/2007 at 23:59
Why doesn't she find her own place to live and claim housing benefit?
SD on 28/6/2007 at 00:03
1am now and bedtime (separate beds... honestly, what do you take me for ;))
I don't think she's gonna have anything more to do with him now; she kinda asked me outright if he cheated on her when they were together because she suspected he did - and I kinda answered honestly.
She's upset obviously, but honestly better off for the fact that she has finally binned him off for good; he might be my friend, but he's been a total shit to her. I knew he could be a manipulative asshole but some of the stuff she told me - him breaking her phone and SIM card in half, verbally abusing her because she wouldn't give him money to buy booze and drugs (he owes her £650 - US$1300) - made me seethe with rage.
I'll probably see him in work tomorrow, if he actually drags his coke-addled arse in. He'll have words with me most likely because she's texted him about his cheating and he suspects I told her (I did, but I've denied all knowledge, and he has no proof it was me). To be honest, I'm not sure I want to be his friend any more after this anyway. People fucking disgust me sometimes.
Thanks to everyone for their help and advice. I'm not used to all this drama, but it's quite interesting in a morbidly horrifying way.
Quote Posted by dvrabel
Why doesn't she find her own place to live and claim housing benefit?
Despite the best efforts of my so-called friend, she has 7 grand left in her savings.
