Scots Taffer on 5/5/2009 at 03:20
Sypha, come to the New York meet. Please.
Starrfall on 5/5/2009 at 03:29
Quote Posted by Sypha Nadon
so they can avoid, say, killing themselves by accident or something.
See it's good to have goals.
Stitch on 5/5/2009 at 04:44
Quote Posted by Sypha Nadon
Stitch, part of the reason I've avoided beer and drugs is because I know, with my lack of willpower, I'd probably end up getting hooked very easily (having known quite a few drunken wrecks in my time, that has provided further incentive).
Well, there is a middle ground, erm, at least that's what I hear. But really, a drink or two wouldn't do much to directly confront your core underlying problem of living a sheltered existence from which you're terrified to break free. There are lots of great suggestions in this thread but you need to find ways of expanding your world that appeal on some level to you.
Have you been doing much writing lately? Joining some sort of short stories critiquing circle might be up your alley.
Also: as much as I miss the Sypha drama of yore, your posts here are remarkably clearheaded and self-aware. You may be having issues leaving the nest but it would appear that the last few years were not without some developed maturity.
Renault on 5/5/2009 at 05:36
Try to envision still living with your parents when you're 60.
Got it? Ok.
So sometime between now and then, you gotta get the hell outta there and start your own life. And the sooner the better. It'll be rough for a while, but do it anyway.
New job. Work out. All good ideas.
You only get one of these things, no point in wasting it.
SubJeff on 6/5/2009 at 19:01
Quote Posted by Scots Taffer
Sypha, come to the New York meet. Please.
I was going to say just this. Let the brethren show you how to loosen up.
sp4f on 6/5/2009 at 19:26
As someone who has been somewhere close to the point you are at I only have one (several) things to say to you:
Get the fuck out of your parents house, don't try too much to be 'the good son' as you honestly need to be doing what is going to be good for you in the long term, living in their house is just going to stunt you as a person and contribute more to the various things you probably spend a lot of time being annoyed with yourself for in private. It'll seem really hard and really unpleasant and probably a whole lot of terrifying but if you don't break yourself out of this you'll end up being past 35 and still be stuck in your parents home and being even more pissed off/critical with yourself.
The best way to start is to find interesting and fun people either on t'interwebs or who you know through work or whatever who are up for sharing a house or apartment, do whatever you need to but just get out. It'll take a few months to get used to being alone/sharing a house/free but once you are through that you'll probably be kicking y'sen and asking why the hell you didn't do it earlier.
The same goes for your anxiety problems, y'can either spend a lot of time convincing yourself that you are a total introvert and thus can't deal with people or you can just tell yourself that the world can go fuck itself because you aren't willing to let this shit impede you or your life any more. It is hard at first, terribly hard but just take it slowly and you'll get used to it, that or you'll build a facet of yourself that can deal with it for certain periods of time, eventually you'll be able to integrate this into yourself as a whole.
Or y'know pick mild drinking as a way to deal with your anxiety, y'don't have to be blotto all the time as even a pint or two will go some way to helping you to relax. And in time you'll get to the point where you realise you can deal with all of this without having a drink to calm your nerves first.
Most important though is this: Hold your head (and pecker) up and kick the lungs out of anyone who gets in the way of your progress :).
Vernon on 6/5/2009 at 21:46
Where's rbj's fuck bitches get money tellin' it how it is post?
TTK12G3 on 7/5/2009 at 02:01
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Where's rbj's fuck bitches get money tellin' it how it is post?
Tocky on 7/5/2009 at 03:53
Just a question or two:
If you talk about your health problems now then what are you going to talk about when you get old?
You do at least make your own bed, right?
You understand that no matter what you do you are going to die sometime and no do-overs, right?
Socking back some breakaway dough though, right?
PolarBear on 9/5/2009 at 00:39
Long time, no see, Sypha.
I used to be Gray, but forgot my password. So bear with me. No, not that way.
I hear your situation, and on any other day, I'd say, as I've done in the past "move out of that tiny little hole of a town and move to somewhere else, anywhere else, meet new people, do new stuff, get another job, and please stop talking about your bowel movements".
But it's a new economy now. You can't just move anywhere and expect to get a job, just because you're good at something.
But on the upside, you're not a complete failure yet, you still have another 11 years to accomplish that, so pretty much anything you do at this point will be a step upwards. It might not seem like it at the time, but eventually it probably will. If I were you, and I'm quite happily not, I'd take a long good hard look at myself (I don't recommend anyone else taking a long good hard look at Sypha), and identify what your real big issue is, and, over a period of months and several whiny threads, come to some idea on what you need to change.
And then whine some more.
And then, do something.
That's my very very vague advice. But hey, at least I'm listening to the whining.
Oh yeah, and Starr pretty much covered all the other stuff I was going to say. As usual. Listen to her.
[Edit]
I could go on about how you should probably try some yoga, zen meditation and/or strenuous physical exercise, but now, you really wouldn't listen to any of that anyway. Because it takes some effort. And you'd need to actually talk to people who lead these types of things. And none of them listen to any good music.
