Harvester on 10/7/2017 at 22:45
Thanks SubJeff. I posted about it in another thread, but it was a completely unrelated political thread that not everyone might have read. I miss her like hell (she died on June 19th, a day before she would've turned 34), but I'm trying to do all the stuff I'd normally do, while still allowing myself time to grieve. Thankfully my rent isn't that high, so I don't have to move to a different house, I can afford to live here alone. We didn't have any kids, which I think is for the best now.
Kolya on 11/7/2017 at 05:49
Quote Posted by Al_B
I presume you've taken her to the vet already? ...
Yeah, her current weight loss is due to thyroid suppressing medicine. She was already very weak because of lack of potassium and then stopped eating for 3 days straight. Last night I filled a syringe with cat milk and shot that down her throat. Apparently that reminded her that eating isn't all that bad and she had some light snacks. Finally.
I should mention (
http://felinecrf.info) here, which helped me diagnose her correctly. The vet's tip had been a rare disease that she was tested negatively for.
Thirith on 11/7/2017 at 06:20
@Harvester: If I may ask, was your wife ill for a longer time? In any case, that's a really terrible thing to happen and I hope you've got people who can give you the support you need.
Harvester on 11/7/2017 at 08:18
She was ill for a long time, but mentally. Depression, anxiety, negative self image, hypochondria, etc. I was able to give her a lot of love, care, support, a roof above her head, food & drinks, some luxury items etc., but her problems were so fundamental I couldn't make her permanently happy. She was happy with me, and we often did fun stuff together which she liked, but ultimately she was unhappy with herself. In the end she had delusional thought, which might've been early onset psychosis. She had different anti-psychotic medications, which might not have worked as well as the stuff she previously had. In her delusions, she took her own life :(. I think she only half-realized what she was doing.
Her problems were so severe that maybe for her it's better this way. It's just she leaves a huge hole in my life (I miss her like crazy and happily would've taken care of her for as long as I lived) and in the lives of all the people who loved her. Which are a lot of people, she was a real sweetheart and an easy-to-love person.
Vivian on 11/7/2017 at 08:40
Crikey mate, that's fucking savage. I am so sorry.
Thirith on 11/7/2017 at 11:21
I'm really sorry, Harvester; that's a massively shitty hand to be dealt, both for you and for her.
Starker on 11/7/2017 at 12:15
Damn, Harvester. Hang in there. It gets better eventually.
Harvester on 11/7/2017 at 12:20
Thanks Vivian, Thirith and Starker, yeah it is pretty shitty. I'm holding up relatively okay, but I feel far from good. I'm getting good support though, from my family, her family and my friends and co-workers/bosses. Financially I got most things taken care of and things are looking okay, I'm probably going to be able to get by without too much trouble. Before she died I was looking to make a career switch to a programming position (for like 32 hours a week or something, maybe eventually 40 if I can handle it) and that's something I still want to do, but for the moment I'm going to postpone that for at least a couple of months. I have to feel a little better before I feel like dealing with the stress that comes with switching jobs. And as I said, I make enough money to live from right now. Can't do anything outrageous, but my hobbies are pretty much movies/shows, games, books and programming anyway, so I'm not really a big spender.
Al_B on 11/7/2017 at 12:29
Really sorry to hear that, Harvester - that sounds really tough. Sounds like taking time before jumping into a new job is very sensible.
icemann on 11/7/2017 at 16:21
Funny thing is, I was thinking of starting a thread a few days ago that was essentially what this was. Then someone else beats me to the punch.
*Shakes fist at Kolya*
Ok status update -
I'm smack bang in the middle of a big life change at present. I'm 36 and still live with my parents, though that is about to change. The past 5 years has been mostly aimed around saving up for a deposit for a mortgage (house prices in Australia compared to other countries is just CRAZY). Finally got together the goal amount last year and got approved, found a place that was within our range (300k which only gets you a unit/flat. 700k or more to get a house near-ish to Melbourne) in March and have been upgrading the place to be suitable and safe for me and my fiance to move into. Those upgrades should be finished in around 1-2 weeks from now and then begins the next stage of my life.
Work wise I've been unemployed since December but luckily got back into teaching at the university I studied at from 2008 - 2010. That work begins in 2 weeks. I'll be teaching mostly games development style units. Should be fun :).
My little eBay/Gumtree/Facebook Marketplace business of selling retro video game related goods continues to slowly grow. It started out with 1k worth of Super Nintendo games back in 2013, where as now I'm selling about 10k-ish worth of games across Super Nintendo, Sega Megadrive and the Nintendo Entertainment System (plus stuff I just want to get rid of). Next system I'll be selling for will be the Nintendo 64. The best part about the business, is that it keeps me motivated as every week brings different tasks to do like cleaning and testing games, sniping auctions on ebay to get the best prices, visiting charity stores in search of super cheap stuff, updating my listings etc etc. So that's going quite well. It doesn't earn heaps of cash or anything, but enough to assist me with bills here and there. Some of that money for the deposit came straight from this + numerous paid jobs I've done over the years.
And I'm getting married in early November.
Fun times to be in.
