Chade on 4/10/2010 at 12:49
From your first post I see that you're 23, a guy, in a Masters program, cute, handsome, and a real prick.
This is probably why girls you meet are more interested in sex then a relationship.
And yeah, the "broken home" and "normal girl" talk is horrible.
Scots Taffer on 4/10/2010 at 12:53
duckman, more like fuckman
it's all i got, sorry, i'm tired
Dia on 4/10/2010 at 13:24
Quote Posted by Fingernail
A further strategy to avoid backing yourself into a corner over people is to avoid labelling people you don't really know. You meet a girl, she's from a "broken home", suddenly you cease to percieve a person and her character is unfairly simplified to the stereotype you have constructed. Congratulations, a person who has all the potential to change your life is now shut out!
This.
Quote Posted by Muzman
Maybe your rampant self absorbtion and snobbery comes across?
Seconded.
Quote Posted by Fingernail
My suspicion is that if you met a girl you really like and click with, you'd overlook the fact her parents were divorced anyway, so perhaps it's just excuse-making? And if you really believe it's genetic,
I don't know what to tell you then you're an idiot.
Fixed.
1) Get over yourself, 2) don't 'settle' - that's just asking for disappointment and unhappiness down the road; you're either in love with the woman in question or you're not, 3) next time you meet a woman you click with, if she's from a 'broken' home, try forgetting that seriously insignificant detail and really get to know her as a person; stop regarding her as another statistic on your 'Cons' list. In fact, throw out your damned list of standards altogether because it's waaayyy too idealistic and impossible for anyone to live up to. Try focusing on the things you may have in common with the next woman you find appealing instead of mentally checking off items on your silly list of criteria that you feel must be met.
As far as your religious (spiritual?) views are concerned, I agree that it' important to consider that factor when entering into a relationship. Having been in a relationship where my significant other claimed to be an atheist, I can honestly say it did cause problems. You might want to try becoming a member of a local church (or whatever); you're bound to meet a woman with the same spiritual views/beliefs as yourself.
Frankly, I think a lot of women would have second thoughts about dating a guy who has a history of depression, so you might want to downplay that one just a tad.
While you're at it, think about how you may be coming across to a young woman you might have just met. From here you really do sound like a pompous ass - not very appealing, no matter how 'cute and handsome' you may be. And I mean that in the nicest possible way. ;)
Sort of.
Yakoob on 4/10/2010 at 13:31
wait, so you have clinical depression but you scoff at girls with divorced parents?
you're a real winner aren't you...
Queue on 4/10/2010 at 14:03
duckman- Probably because you sound like a pussy. Why else would she cheat on you THEN harass you later if you didn't have the "walk all over me" sign hanging around your neck. Punch the bitch!
And quit emasculating yourself, for fuckssake. Man up.
Quote Posted by duckman
I want the damn relationship that makes sense on an emotional and mental level.
WHHHHHYYY?? You're only 23?! What exactly
is the hurry to have a "meaningful relationship?" And a career and that matter. The ages of 18 to at least 35 should be spent
living. Travel. See the world. Enjoy yourself. Bang broads. Lots of broads. If you're not worried about an STD by 25, you're missing out.
The point is, do things now while you have youth and vitality on your side. A relationship at your age truly does nothing more than suck the life from you, especially since most girls your age are mindless, self-centered, and vapid. Let them ripen at bit before you take the fruit...so to speak. It'll be so much more sweeter, and you'll have no regrets.
Dia on 4/10/2010 at 14:33
Quote Posted by Queue
A relationship at your age truly does nothing more than suck the life from you, especially since most girls your age are mindless, self-centered, and vapid. Let them ripen at bit before you take the fruit...so to speak. It'll be so much more sweeter, and you'll have no regrets.
Or .....
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http://i29.photobucket.com/albums/c262/Diah_/Cougar2.jpgVasquez on 4/10/2010 at 14:34
Quote Posted by Queue
most girls your age are mindless, self-centered, and vapid. Let them ripen at bit
Or find yourself a cougar!
Edit. Damn you, Dia! :cheeky:
Queue on 4/10/2010 at 14:52
Come on, people. After reading the parts about: "
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Maybe it seems like I'm putting myself on a pedestal but I don't think I am. After dealing with depression I dedicated years to improving all aspects of my life from health to social to education and I think I've done a good job. Maybe too good a job from the looks of it because I can't find what I'd consider a NORMAL woman. " and "I've strived to be what I've always considered to be good. I don't drink I don't smoke I can socialize well, I'm educated, I treat people nicely, I exercise ect ect. I'm human too I lose my temper, I get mad, I get sad blah blah blah... I completely understand some people would think this is boring and prefer something else but these are my preferences. And I cannot see, why for any reason, there appears to be NO ONE ELSE LIKE THIS IN THE WHOLE FUCKING WORLD!"
... I WANTED TO CHEAT ON HIM!
BrokenArts on 4/10/2010 at 15:00
Drop the mightier than thou attitude. If you think thats all that is out there when it comes to women, thats who you will attract. Be open minded, relax, stop looking, as others have said. Whats the rush? If you want someone of a higher standard, keep looking she is out there, don't worry about it. Try other avenues to find someone, eventually. Library, coffee shop, skip the clubs and bars.
Queue on 4/10/2010 at 15:06
Exactly, BA.
Most of all, duckman.... Quit worrying about it. And give no credence to the perceptions gleaned from, or encouraged by, those around you. Have a life first, before settling into the notion of what "life" is.
(And quit asking for advice like this on the internet. Jesus!)
