nbohr1more on 20/10/2010 at 12:56
Thanks Tocky.
I guess my weak will against internet arguers has made me spill more beans then I ever planned here.
Believe me, I have been trying to be stolid it's just the ongoing discomfort of knowing things could get bad when I get home from work that is wearing my spirits thin.
I have immaturely been inspiring a little flavor of rebellion in my son's attitude which is turning my wife's very strict world-view upside-down. My wife loves babies and little children which is why she is a Nanny. My fear is as my son gets older and is no longer a cute little boy that she will not measure her temper the way she does now. I have already seen her attitude become more hardened towards him now that he is five...
Stitch on 20/10/2010 at 14:20
Well this thread certainly has spiraled into some fucked up shit.
nbohr1more: talk to a lawyer, start making plans to get the fuck out, and take steps to ensure that nobody legal ever sees this thread. Your sexual frustration is the least of your problems.
fett on 20/10/2010 at 15:00
See, I don't buy the "never hit her back" thing. I've never laid a hand on my wife, or any other woman for that matter, nor do I have any intention to. However, in the spirit of equal rights and equal punishments, it's my feeling that any woman who physically strikes another person shouldn't be shocked when the dude hits her back. I don't think anyone here is advocating punching women in the face, but in a situation where she's holding you down and punching you, a good hard slap to the jowls would at least help you to break free for a moment, and might even send the message that you've grown a spine.
I once had to physically hold a woman down because she was so livid at her teenage daughter, there was about to be bloodshed right there in my office. She started screaming that I shouldn't touch her, that I was hurting her etc. I probably was - I had her by the arms and was holding tight enough to bruise, but my force was proportionate to her violence. I didn't feel good about it, but I would have felt much worse if the daughter had been harmed (and she would have been).
In short, I'm not in favor of "abusing" back, but I am in favor of self-defense and standing up for yourself, regardless of the abusers gender. Sometimes I've even seen it diffuse the situation and make the abuser think twice before hitting again.
SubJeff on 20/10/2010 at 15:02
You could of course set up an account on your own and put small amounts of money into that. And you really have no bank accounts that are not joint accounts? Can't pay in cash?
take a secret krav maga class
nbohr1more on 20/10/2010 at 15:08
Nope all bank accounts belong to "us"... Cash would have to come from a place that doesn't show in my ADP pay stub as she can go online and read it... I would need something like a side-job that lasts an hour or so a day...
Queue on 20/10/2010 at 16:14
The only thing I'm taking away from this is that women are increasingly mean, and heterosexual men are increasingly sensitive.
That's it, I'm going gay from now on. Only the guys that know how to take a cock are REAL MEN!
Welcome to page 12. I now hate duckman.
Vivian on 20/10/2010 at 16:14
Assuming this isn't bullshit, you're basically listing excuses rather than reasons. I'm not sure I can really relate to you, unfortunately, because I honestly don't understand why the fuck you would stay married to someone you seem to hate. Life is short etc. If you can't take charge of yourself, what the fuck are you going to do ever? In a nice way.
Queue on 20/10/2010 at 16:16
No, it's not bullshit. It's Cock-Galore for ol' Queue!
Vivian on 20/10/2010 at 16:33
Queue you got in the way of my post you INSENSITIVE FUCK
Bluegrime on 20/10/2010 at 20:48
This thread is still alive? Alas..
I laughed, quite heartily, at the attitudes some of the people here have towards our hideous friend and his snarling wife creature. I took his posts in good humor and read them as just some guy yarning up his horrid life, not as a prompt to hock loogies on him from my high horse. It is so very, very easy to say "Completely change your life, divorce your wife, win custody, live happily evar after" with the assumption that it took more effort to think of that then it would to actually do it.. But how many of you people who have been giving this guy serious attempts at 'advice' have ever had to deal with a divorce, much less a custody battle? How many of you would be willing to take this guy and his kid in if he followed this oh-so-wonderful advice the sages here provide and his life got ruined? The utter naivete of these apparently genuine attempts to help him makes me wonder if this forum's members have aged since that crotch waxing thread.
Rather then deal with the glaring inequities of the family court system (in the US at least), pay alimony to someone you hate and don't even live with, worry about having a child being abused without an adult in the household to even try to stop it and spend a month delousing the bed sheets.. Why not just poison her?
