nbohr1more on 19/10/2010 at 11:41

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Sure I have "bigger fish to fry" than "no sex with hotties".

I was at one time trying to stay on-topic but I got sucked into the whole "someone is wrong on the internet" feeling when I saw clearly judgmental posts and needed to provide my context to set them straight. What was so wrong about my statements again, I simply indicated that my wife is overweight and enjoyed her libido in her youth? Maybe I shouldn't have rolled with the punches and should have defended my spouse from Queue :laff: rather than playing along with him (I'm sure that my wife is psychic-ally heart-broken right now...)
I suppose my case is a statistical outlier but I thought it was the perfect counter-point against the OP's dilemma of having women always throw themselves at him sexually.

ZylonBane on 19/10/2010 at 18:15

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Sulphur on 19/10/2010 at 18:26

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Seriously, I look at that guava thread, and the only thing that's changed is the names. And mostly, not even that.

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edit: not like that's a bad thing, y'understand

fett on 19/10/2010 at 19:43

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I call bullshit.

Like Dia said, you're fucking your kid up more by staying with an abusive spouse. Collect evidence. Hide a video camera to capture the abuse. Take pictures of injuries. Gather all that shit, get a child custody lawyer, file for divorce, and get yourself and your son the hell away from her. I can cite hundreds of cases in which the father retained sole custody of multiple children for lesser offenses than abuse. Wait till she leaves the house and change the locks - kick her out, just like a wife would treat an adulterous husband.

What specifically have you done to change the situation? Have you even ever tried to hit her back? I'm not advocating a boxing ring in your living room, I'm curious as to whether or not you've even tried to demonstrate that you won't put up with her treatment at all. Your kid's going to grow up to be either an abuser or a punching bag himself, so "it's for the kids" doesn't fly.

Any effort less than the above, tells me you're either co-dependent and need therapy, or you're making shit up.

nbohr1more on 19/10/2010 at 20:40

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Camera?

Locks?

Recorders?

These things would require money.

My wife took my debit card under the guise that I was being unwise by buying premium coffee when I have acid reflux. She claimed that she would return it when I learned my lesson. That was when we were amicable and when I believed her words.

(yes, that was very unwise to allow her to scold me into that...)

Ask a friend? What friends, she scared them away.

None of my friends wanted to hang-out with her around to nag me over and over again and do her whole belittling Peg Bundy "he's an idiot man" routine thinking that they are all laughing along with her "at me". Yes, I had been told to ditch her and I suppose their absence is a tough-love message to me to skedaddle. Maybe I should've borrowed some dough before they all left...

When my son sees her fury I make sure to explain that his mother is being naughty but sometimes I get the feeling he doesn't get the message.

I don't dare strike back, she knows her court-room advantages and would not hesitate to use that against me.

She only abuses me enough to cause pain rather than any visible bruising, most of the abuse is verbal (which I brush-off due to the source) but seeing her encourage my son to insult me is not fun. One particularly frightening example is when my son had a plastic "light saber" which he wailed on me with at her insistence, while she held me in place. It stung pretty bad. Youtube audiences would probably have gotten a good laugh at the whole thing. (Probably the same with a custody judge) but it made me imagine what might happen with blunter objects when he gets older.

I can't "kick her out" her well-to-do parents paid-off the mortgage in her name. On the books she's a pauper part-time Nanny but in reality she's a shop-aholic who's parents always pay off her debts. I would essentially be paying child support and alimony to a wealthy women.

Oh yeah, all that extra funding she has would workout real well for the divorce lawyer situation.

Me: Man, inherently untrusted and un-nuturing. Acting as my own lawyer.
Wife: Woman, naturally the victim, nurturing and loving. Expensive lawyer.


Your criticisms fall short for me unless you have a plan to evade all these pitfalls.