Queue on 18/10/2010 at 12:12
Stitch has never defended any of my arguments. :(
CCCToad on 18/10/2010 at 21:29
Because your arguments are indefensible.
Well....maybe he just feels sorry for nbohr.
Dia on 19/10/2010 at 01:24
Quote Posted by nbohr1more
3) How are you certain that the "wife" is real? This could all be hypothetical as Queue has suggested. Given that there is not even enough detail to distinguish this "wife" from a hypothetical one, how is this supposed to have
any effect on her?
If this 'wife' and your situation really are hypothetical then wtf's the point?
Quote Posted by nbohr1more
Really your posts amount to "You should be married to someone you love."
Well thanks for reminding me, please also remind me that I should score higher on IQ tests and earn thousands of dollars an hour.
Hey - you asked for it when you started spewing bile about your wife all over us. I can't believe you're expecting sympathy at this point. Anyone who'd post such vile, compassionless bullshit about someone he promised to love and honor doesn't deserve one ounce of compassion or kindness. Did you speak your marriage vows with tongue-in-cheek, or were you just not paying attention? I say do yourself
and your wife a favor: end it and move on. If you really want help, go see a counselor.
Or stop over(under?)-medicating and inventing hypothetical spouses and wasting our time.
Quote Posted by Stitch
While nbohr1more is wording things rather tactlessly, I think he's actually tapping into something of a universal truth that many of us refuse to admit. ......... If you're among the average and ugly, well, this could conceivably lead to a little pent up frustration, if we're being truly honest.
Stitch; you managed to present this truth without demeaning and dehumanizing anyone, so imo nbohr could've presented that 'universal truth' without sliming his wife in such a repulsive manner; simple enough. I can't find one iota of compassion for someone who is not only lacking such himself, but who blatantly vomits his disrespect and loathing without the least bit of temperance - pent up frustrations notwithstanding. Then again, you can't really respect someone else if you can't respect yourself, can you?
Quote Posted by Tocky
I could explain the various ways in which kindness helps not only the one recieving but it would be a waste of time on someone as bent on seeing the glass not only not half full but empty broken and shit smeared as well. I'm sorry you are frustrated and your wife beats you and you are going to do nothing about it and will live in misery forever. That about cover it? I have more productive things to do and I'm beginning to think your wife is right in beating you so I'm walking away before you ruin my view of your character even more.
Seconded, thirded, and fourthed.
Quote Posted by nbohr1more
(maybe I would care if she let up on the beatings...)
I don't think she beats you enough.
nbohr1more on 19/10/2010 at 02:15
Quote:
Did you speak your marriage vows with tongue-in-cheek, or were you just not paying attention?
Sequence of events:
1) Great relationship, very affectionate
2) Hounded to get married due our ages
3) Got engaged
4) Rushed to begin pregnancy before marriage
5) Pregnant
6) Fiance turns into evil demon
7) Choice
A) Break-up an instant before the marriage and play into the trap and leave my son to my wife's evil temper...
or
B) Follow through with the marriage and therefore keep my son safe from my wife. Become punching bag on his behalf...
You have all the answers. Answer please.
Dia on 19/10/2010 at 03:42
Quote Posted by nbohr1more
Sequence of events:
1) Great relationship, very affectionate -Sounds like it started out okay.
2) Hounded to get married due our ages -What - neither one of you had a spine (as in mind/will) of your own? Neither of you could tell whoever was 'hounding' you to fuck off & let you make your own decisions? NO, don't answer that.
3) Got engaged -See above response
4) Rushed to begin pregnancy before marriage -WTF? Once again - not a backbone between the 2 of you? Good Lord. I really don't wanna know, so don't answer that one.
5) Pregnant -How very sad.
6) Fiance turns into evil demon -Postpartum perhaps - or just totally frustrated because she just realized she lacked a spine when she needed one to say NO? Guess we'll never know and frankly at this point I don't really care. So don't answer that one either.
7) Choice
A) Break-up an instant before the marriage and play into the trap and leave my son to my wife's evil temper... -Trap? What trap? No - nevermind ..... another one I really don't care to hear the answer to thank you.
or
B) Follow through with the marriage and therefore keep my son safe from my wife. Become punching bag on his behalf....
Oh.For.Christ's.Sake!!!!!
STOP VICTIMIZING YOURSELF!!!! And stop allowing your spouse to continue to victimize you as well and stop using the typical co-dependent-victim excuse: I stay with him/her because of the child(ren). Bullshit! That's the very
first thing any counselor, psychologist, etc., will tell you (well, maybe not the bullshit part). Which is on whom you should be dumping right about now, btw,
not fellow forum members. You're not doing your child any favors by staying with an (allegedly) abusive spouse - in fact you're doing your son more harm than good. Stop being such a fucking martyr, grab your son instead of trying to grab attention & sympathy online, get the fuck outta there, and go get some legitimate counselling. While you're at it, make sure your boy gets counselling as well (if he's old enough to understand what's going on). Stop being so unbelievably selfish in thinking that this is all about you 'keeping my son safe from my wife' and realize that your child's mental/emotional health is in jeopardy and will continue to be until you grow some stones and get out of the situation you stupidly allowed yourself to be railroaded into.
And if this turns out to be one of your hypothetical situations, I'll gladly beat you myself.
Repeatedly.
I am
so done with this. :rolleyes:
nbohr1more on 19/10/2010 at 04:12
did i read that correctly.. ? are you implying that men can easily gain full custody of their children? and that divorce judges side with men? also FYI when men "grab their children and run" they call it abduction... (see Americas Most Wanted for examples)
kabatta on 19/10/2010 at 05:17
No, The person says you are a weasel for not taking responsibility. And I agree. You hide behind concept that are coined around between the ignorant.
Xorak on 19/10/2010 at 05:31
I think in many circumstances the man can get full custody of their children if they act smart about it, ie. record the wife's behavior over time, attempt counselling, and show proof that they did their best to rectify the situation while the wife did nothing or made the situation worse. This happened to one of my brothers-in-law: his wife went off the deep end, and the courts recogized the fact. I think the idea that women always win these court cases is an internet myth, and if you searched around you would see that there are plenty of cases where the man does indeed get full custody.
Vasquez on 19/10/2010 at 08:07
Your wife is so violent that you are "trapped" in a crappy relationship "to be the punching bag" so your wife wouldn't beat your kid to pulp - and your main woe is that you don't get enough wild sex with young hotties? :weird:
