Renzatic on 14/10/2010 at 20:30
Quote Posted by Ulukai
There's no pleasure in ending up in bed with Hottie McFittie only to find she's more preoccupied with the microscopic spot on her arse, whether she looks fat and whether her fringe is sticking to her forehead than enjoying herself.
I'm well convinced alot of the women who do that do it for the attention, because they only do it when they're around you. They don't actually think it, they just want to hear you say "awww, no you're not. You're perfect". Once I've had enough of it, I'll start swinging it into the opposite extreme when that's said to me.
"Really? You're hardly what I'd call fat? Hell, I thought you were doing meth all this time. I mean I can measure your heartrate just by looking at your neck. It's disgusting. If anything, I think you should eat more".
"That's mean!"
"well, ask a stupid question..."
CCCToad on 14/10/2010 at 20:53
Quote Posted by nbohr1more
But no matter how idealistic you are there is a minimum bar of attractiveness that spurs arousal, and "believe me" in my case it's pretty darn low... Yet, I have never really satisfied that minimum.
I agree, to a point. I don't think there's anything wrong or shallow with wanting to be with someone that you find attractive. Whats shallow is deciding that you won't date anything below a certain rating (ie, refusing to date anyone below a 9) or deciding that you MUST have a certain physical feature (ie, "I only date blondes"). Personally, I don't set any specific guidelines. I just try to decide whether I am attracted on a case by case basis.
Also, a great personality can do a lot to make up for below average looks, but even the "hottest" look can't do much to offset stupidity or a bitchy personality.
DDL on 14/10/2010 at 21:18
Anyone else feeling progressively sorry for mrs nbohr1more?? Jesus wept...
"My darling wife, you are below even the apparently very low bar of attractiveness I use to grade women. Even contemplating fucking you takes a herculean amount of willpower."
Sulphur on 14/10/2010 at 21:24
I think that's more than made up for by there being multiple tongues in multiple cheeks in the nbohr household.
Stitch on 14/10/2010 at 21:47
To clarify: physical attraction is important, and I'd be a hypocrite to pretend otherwise, but the kind of physical chemistry that rewires your brain to intensely crave this other person ultimately has very little to do with how closely she resembles a lingerie model. I like a good body, yeah, but flash me a killer smile and I'm gone.
nbohr1more on 14/10/2010 at 21:52
Quote Posted by DDL
Anyone else feeling progressively sorry for mrs nbohr1more?? Jesus wept...
"My darling wife, you are below even the apparently very low bar of attractiveness I use to grade women. Even contemplating fucking you takes a herculean amount of willpower."
It's called "settling" it's what us ugly folk do... Enjoy you attractive partner\partners normal looking person :thumb:
Sulphur on 14/10/2010 at 22:01
Ah, the institution of marriage. So full of compromise.
fett on 14/10/2010 at 22:12
I'm going to need a picture of nbohr1more to further assess this situation. Naked please.
Yakoob on 14/10/2010 at 23:44
Adding in to the frustration. Been talking to a girl for a while now, flirting half the time, and we finally end up making out two nights in a row. Cue in two weeks of her blowing me off every time I invite her to do anything together; oh but she'll still text/skype me and tell me I'm cute. So annoying...
Quote Posted by CCCToad
Whats shallow is deciding that you won't date anything below a certain rating (ie, refusing to date anyone below a 9) or deciding that you MUST have a certain physical feature (ie, "I only date blondes").
Moral or helpless romantic arguments aside - why? If you dont find certain types attractive, then you don't. Period. You can't really help that. Why should I go for girls with xyz features, if girls with abc appeal to me so much more (and lets be honest, it's not like there's shortage of either).
Vernon on 15/10/2010 at 00:10
Quote Posted by Yakoob
Cue in two weeks of her blowing me off every time I invite her to do anything together; oh but she'll still text/skype me and tell me I'm cute. So annoying...
ditch the bint
