Vernon on 8/10/2010 at 00:40
who wasn't? :O
(apart from mignon21, obviously)
Yakoob on 8/10/2010 at 01:17
Quote Posted by Queue
Best job ever.
...and one with benefits.
its hard to turn down a job which best benefit
is the job itself.
Tocky on 8/10/2010 at 02:20
Quote Posted by Scots Taffer
This ain't a pink themed self-help forum, so get over it.
Maybe if it aint pink I want to stay under it did you ever think of that? NoOOOooo, you just want to force your whiteman over pink missionary style western imperialism on me.
JoshAnnie&Jenna on 8/10/2010 at 14:51
I have only read the very first post by who ever the hell started this crap.
wan ker.
Nicky.
Vivian on 8/10/2010 at 15:00
I just re-read the new first post and I have even less idea of whats supposed to be going on. Donovan Bailey? The first Canadian to legally break the 10-second 100m, apparently. So duckman is now getting romantic advice from the worlds fastest (legal) Canadian? Romance is a marathon, not a sprint, duckman. Remember that. It takes months of training, and at the end of it all you get a blanket and a lucozade. And irreparable knee damage.
Gingerbread Man on 8/10/2010 at 17:51
Actually, he was getting posting advice from the world's sexiest (legal) Canadian. After he wiped out that OP I was going to repaste it, but I saw it already existed on Page 3. So I took a deep breath, chugged back half a gallon of dish soap, and let my fingers do what they wanted to do.
Which - happily - didn't involve my nose for once. HOORAY!
Renzatic on 8/10/2010 at 18:10
I find it rather disconcerting that you admin types can change posts and have it show up as being edited by the original poster. :weird:
I am stupid and dumb wot goes O_o gngngngngngngngngng and I need to shut up now because I am stupid.
Gingerbread Man on 8/10/2010 at 18:32
You know how we feel about people starting threads and then deleting the OP because things didn't go their way. Loooong history, ask Sypha.
And like I said, I would have just re-pasted the OP except someone had beat me to the clever.
CCCToad on 9/10/2010 at 02:47
Ok, back to talking about girls
I will say that depression and neediness is something that people pick up on and are turned off by. Fett is 100% correct when he wrote:
Quote:
Dude, this is a problem with you internally. Once you start with the "Why can't I find a perfect woman" they can smell it on you and will avoid you like an unwashed heathen. Remember the phrase "The moment you stop looking for a woman, that's when you'll find one"? It is completely true. Just go on with your life, be aloof. I give it 6 months and you'll be on easy street. Just act like they don't exist.
Thing is, alot of this is completely subconscious and nonverbal communication. Once you get into the mentality of "I NEED the perfect girl" it also conveys a powerful negative message about you: you don't have enough going for you to be happy without a woman. If you simply measure yourself by what you can get, then you don't have any higher value to offer them and they will never feel any emotional attraction for you.
Therefore, you need to put all that aside. I would advise that you date not to find a perfect woman, but simply to have fun and meet new people. Aren't happy with the people you know? MEET new people. If you can't do that, join activity groups (outdoor adventure groups can be great). Alternatively you can take classes from the people who can teach you how to meet people and start things off on the right foot (PM me and I'll point you in the right direction).
In each specific interation, treat it not as serious but as a game. Don't concern yourself with the results, simply have fun and try to build as much as you can before closing the interaction yourself.
Since this IS TTLG, the video game analogy works. Its like Demon's Souls: You go as far as you can, and when you hit a pitfall and get knocked back, analyze WHY you failed, then correct it the next time so you can get farther. This mentality is also extremely helpful for those of us guys who are emotional. Once you view it as nothing but a game and the people you are talking to as nothing more than pawns in a game, you completely stop yourself from projecting neediness.
It may sound cold, but look at it this way: you don't actually KNOW those people and you don't KNOW that they have anything to offer you. Simply run through whatever method you have of meeting new people, THEN determine whether they seem like someone you'd enjoy being with and you want to talk to them again or whether you should simply wave bye and be on your way.
Above all,HAVE FUN
Tocky on 9/10/2010 at 03:53
So you're saying DON'T ask her if she likes whip cream and when she says yes spray it on your crotch? This is hard.
I had an actual LOL moment at Renzes post and I needed it badly.
