TheNightTerror on 16/10/2007 at 12:25

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You'll have to pardon me for writing a sob thread, I just found out barely an hour ago that my grandmother passed away and I had to write something somewhere so I could have a chance of getting back to sleep. I don't even know what to think right now; I guess I'm in still in shock. It didn't even register what my mom had said when she told me, I was still half asleep, and I thought maybe I was dreaming.

I hadn't seen grandma in over 3 years because of my god damn sleep problems, and I ended up fumbling a chance to go down to Victoria on an extremely quick trip only on Saturday, if I'd gone I would've almost certainly had a chance to stop in and see her in Vancouver on Sunday. I guess my intuition was warning me I should go down there, I felt like it was a last chance to see her, and it turned out to be my last chance ever.

She went peacefully by the sound of things, they called my mom to tell her that grandma's blood pressure and temperature was dropping at a quarter to four and asked if they should intervene, but her living will said not to keep her alive artificially once she started to go. Half an hour later she was gone. She had been fine just a few days ago, it seems like her body had run for as long as it could, and she shut down after that. She wasn't sick, she was doing fine for a 90 year old woman as far as any of us knew.

I hope that she's with my grandfather again. He passed in 1979 from a brain tumor just a few weeks before his 70th birthday. They were total opposites, she was the nervous, jumpy one, while my grandfather was the laid back fisherman. She stayed in the home he built for her and their kids after he passed, but within the last year she was growing too weak to live on her own, so we had to put her in a home. She was falling and having to call for help often enough that the doctors finally said they weren't letting her go home again.

The house was sold within the last couple months, and I guess the strain of losing the home he built for her and having to live in a home was too much for her. All of us were worried she wouldn't make it a year after having to give up her home, and it looks as though we were right.

I should probably get my ass back to bed, if I'm going to make it down for the funeral I'm going to need sleep badly. And if I don't shut up this is going to end up a mile long.

Shadow Creepr on 16/10/2007 at 17:06

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My condolences on the loss of your grandmother. :(

TheNightTerror on 16/10/2007 at 20:25

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What a day this is turning out to be. :( First, I found out that it sounds like grandma went very peacefully, there was a little party at the home last night and she got to spend time with her best friends, her toothache she'd been having was getting better, and everything seemed fine. She went to sleep and just didn't wake up. Everyone who saw her last night can't believe she was just a few hours from dying.

Then, I found out about another death today. When I was little my mom had a really good friend who had 3 kids, the oldest two and me were a year and a half apart age wise, so we've always known each other and they were like a second family to me, but they moved away when I was 13 and we fell out of touch with them.

Today, my mom was at the bank to deal with my grandma's money matters, and she ran into the husband of her friend. He was in there with a death certificate; his wife passed away two weeks ago from cancer. She was only 50, and it sounds like she went through absolute hell. She had cancer before she even had the kids, so she would've been 30 or younger, and it came back. It spread like mad and she died when she got an ulcer that ate right through her stomach. :( I can't believe she's gone too, I'd rather not ever know what happened to the kids than to find out they were okay and I could very well see them again this way.

Of course, now I'm paranoid because good old mom is driving down to Vancouver today on next to no sleep, she only got about 3 hours before the phone call and barely got in a nap afterwards. 2 deaths is enough for one day, there better not be a third.

jtr7 on 16/10/2007 at 21:56

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Crap, man...! Hang tough. Cry when you gotta, laugh 'cause you wanna.:(

Thief13x on 17/10/2007 at 15:56

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sorry to hear:( I know it sucks, I just lost my last grandparent last year