Random thoughts... - by Tocky
Fire Arrow on 29/10/2025 at 03:21
Quote Posted by DuatDweller
They say failure is a learning lesson, so in theory the more you fail, the more experience you gain about it all.
My experience with online dating for the best part of two years.
The negatives:
-Very low likely of getting matches, and if you do match they might not respond, and if they do respond they might ghost you.
-Costs money to see who likes you.
-They show your profile to people very far away from you even if you set your distance to only be local (OKcupid, for example, inundates you with matches from the Philippines).
The positives:
-You're both there for the same reason, so there's no awkwardness in the same way of randomly approaching a woman in a café.
-You're more likely to ignored than to encounter people being rude to you. The entire time I've tried online dating, I only had one encounter with a match who was rude to me (although I might be an outlier).
My advice to people considering it: if you have a profile, you might get a match, but most likely you'll be ignored, and it costs money to see if people like you. Once you've tried it, being ignored gets you over your self-consciousness, at least in my experience, so I think that was psychologically helpful to me.
What I learned: relationships are difficult in that so many things have to go right in order for them to go anywhere (e.g. living close enough together), and being in love is one of the best things you can experience.
mxleader on 29/10/2025 at 03:42
Quote Posted by Fire Arrow
My experience with online dating for the best part of two years.
The negatives:
-Very low likely of getting matches, and if you do match they might not respond, and if they do respond they might ghost you.
-Costs money to see who likes you.
-They show your profile to people very far away from you even if you set your distance to only be local (OKcupid, for example, inundates you with matches from the Philippines).
The positives:
-You're both there for the same reason, so there's no awkwardness in the same way of randomly approaching a woman in a café.
-You're more likely to ignored than to encounter people being rude to you. The entire time I've tried online dating, I only had one encounter with a match who was rude to me (although I might be an outlier).
My advice to people considering it: if you have a profile, you might get a match, but most likely you'll be ignored, and it costs money to see if people like you. Once you've tried it, being ignored gets you over your self-consciousness, at least in my experience, so I think that was psychologically helpful to me.
What I learned: relationships are difficult in that so many things have to go right in order for them to go anywhere (e.g. living close enough together), and being in love is one of the best things you can experience.
Online dating is the worst way in the world to date. It was bad before COVID, then it has steadily gone down hill. Then there's social media that's twisting people's minds so badly that unless you're over 6' tall, super fit and earn well over six figures you won't get a date. There are no good dating apps. Dating is dead. Relationships are dead. My soul is dead from trying to date for years through those apps.
The happiest I've been has been the last couple of years without being on any of those apps. I've dated about the same without it but I'm facing women who are older, ready to retire (or are retired), and don't want to move past casual dating. I'm okay with casual dating but it's really only fun if you have expendable income.
Also, it's depressing to even try when you doom scroll for hours on social media and see mostly man-hating strong independent women who are saints and angels and have never done anything bad in a relationship in their lives. Every man is a liar and a cheat (unless he's over 6', super fit, makes more than six figures).
Stick with video games, books, beer, pizza, and the endless pursuit of more college degrees and you'll be happier.
I might be a bit jaded though...
Azaran on 29/10/2025 at 15:10
Quote Posted by Fire Arrow
My experience with online dating for the best part of two years.
The negatives:
-Very low likely of getting matches, and if you do match they might not respond, and if they do respond they might ghost you.
-Costs money to see who likes you.
-They show your profile to people very far away from you even if you set your distance to only be local (OKcupid, for example, inundates you with matches from the Philippines).
The positives:
-You're both there for the same reason, so there's no awkwardness in the same way of randomly approaching a woman in a café.
-You're more likely to ignored than to encounter people being rude to you. The entire time I've tried online dating, I only had one encounter with a match who was rude to me (although I might be an outlier).
My advice to people considering it: if you have a profile, you might get a match, but most likely you'll be ignored, and it costs money to see if people like you. Once you've tried it, being ignored gets you over your self-consciousness, at least in my experience, so I think that was psychologically helpful to me.
What I learned: relationships are difficult in that so many things have to go right in order for them to go anywhere (e.g. living close enough together), and being in love is one of the best things you can experience.
I met my current girlfriend on Ok Cupid, we both have very niche interests, similar personality, and same life goals, so the stars aligned.
But I agree, generally online dating is difficult if you're an average looking dude. There was a study that claims only 20% of men on dating apps will ever get real matches and dates, and those are the most standout, buff, stereotypically attractive men.
PS: My ex was a coworker who came onto me.
DuatDweller on 31/10/2025 at 20:58
Ok the children took their candies from my house and they're moving around the street, done.
Tocky on 31/10/2025 at 21:11
Little did they know they were not candy but experimental thought enhancers. They are done. Humanity is done. The void beckons.
DuatDweller on 31/10/2025 at 21:20
Err so you say.
:cheeky:
DuatDweller on 1/11/2025 at 21:05
The Grand Egyptian Museum opens, anyone planning going for a visit to Egypt?
It has a surface area of 500,000 square meters.
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https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/ckg4q403rpzo)
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Egypt's Grand Museum opens, displaying Tutankhamun tomb in full for first time
Near one of the Seven Wonders of the Ancient World - the Great Pyramid of Khufu at Giza - Egypt has officially opened what it intends as a cultural highlight of the modern age.
The Grand Egyptian Museum (GEM), described as the world's largest archaeological museum, is packed with some 100,000 artefacts covering some seven millennia of the country's history from pre-dynastic times to the Greek and Roman eras.
Prominent Egyptologists argue that its establishment strengthens their demand for key Egyptian antiquities held in other countries to be returned - including the famed Rosetta Stone displayed at the British Museum.
A main draw of the GEM will be the entire contents of the intact tomb of the boy king Tutankhamun, displayed together for the first time since it was found by British Egyptologist Howard Carter. They include Tutankhamun's spectacular gold mask, throne and chariots.
"I had to think, how can we show him in a different way, because since the discovery of the tomb in 1922, about 1,800 pieces from a total of over 5,500 that were inside the tomb were on display," says Dr Tarek Tawfik, president of the International Association of Egyptologists and former head of the GEM.
"I had the idea of displaying the complete tomb, which means nothing remains in storage, nothing remains in other museums, and you get to have the complete experience, the way Howard Carter had it over a hundred years ago."
Costing some $1.2bn (£910m; €1.1bn), the vast museum complex is expected to attract up to 8m visitors a year, giving a huge boost to Egyptian tourism which has been hit by regional crises.
"We hope the Grand Egyptian Museum will usher in a new golden age of Egyptology and cultural tourism," says Ahmed Seddik, a guide and aspiring Egyptologist by the pyramids on the Giza Plateau.
Apart from the Tutankhamun exhibit and a new display of the spectacular, 4,500-year-old funerary boat of Khufu - one of the oldest and best-preserved vessels from antiquity - most of the galleries at the site have been opened to the public since last year.
"I've been organising so many tours to the museum even though it was partially open," Ahmed continues. "Now it will be at the pinnacle of its glory. When the Tutankhamun collection opens, then you can imagine the whole world will come back, because this is an iconic Pharoah, the most famous king of all antiquity."
"It's an absolute must-see," says Spanish tourist, Raúl, who is awaiting the full public opening on 4 November.
"We're just waiting to go and check out all of the Egyptian artefacts," says Sam from London, who is on an Egypt tour. "It's a once in a lifetime opportunity."
