Malygris on 19/4/2007 at 00:40
Has anyone suggested sticking it in her pooper yet?
jimjack on 19/4/2007 at 03:06
Malygris yes it was.
Quote Posted by Medlar
Female <strike>soccer</strike> football player! nuff said ;)
Too right! This is why I'm making that much effort.
I almost took this whole equation to Askmen.com But I'm getting some good feedback here.
With all the shite thats going on in this messed up world, its good to have a bit of light shed on a small and somewhat insignificant dilemma. I found the whole tone of that email somewhat threatening and a bit hysterical. It actually made me a bit wary of putting her further off who knows what will set a person off.
Zaccheus: I'm trying to be reflective and calm without spitting back a WTF to her. She's not being upfront and hasn't been. She needs to get to the matter of things but its getting to be an irritating coy game of this dippit pouting and actually some pretty cutting remarks. I've asked and what I've done wrong or at least when I did it and I'm starting to affect a whine in my voice now. I mean was it the time I tackled her during a game of footer and got a grope off of her. She was pretty pissed off then..I mean you don't get what you want without asking and worst I'd say to her was no.
Besides thinking me a whats in it for me selfish bastard, I am really hoping she does figure out what she's wanting then.Maybe she is on abit of header seeing as Im making some effort and she's just playing a game. I'm tired of testing the waters with her but and soon its going to be hard to act like I care. I mean there's some expectations on my part here. If she set some ground rules thats fair so's Im not always crossing some line..some clarification that might mean its ok to hold her hand or something at least. I think we're not asking the same questions going into this. If I care about a girl I want to please her, it shouldn't be 2 people out for themselves...I told her that thinking I'd win points after making brutally tactless comment to her beforehand.
I just know this, if I think I'm going to dive into take things further, and I would like to..but then what is the longterm outcome of this..likely worse behaviour from her since I'm already discovering some sides to her that I can't put quite into words. All I know is she's telling me something I am too dense to figure out and its actually amusing her to see me going through all this. God forbid if she knew I took this to a forum. I can['t read her mind and its like she's the embodiment of some sacred temple that I have to find some key or word to get in. Or something.
Hell I say and to quote"you can't excite the goat without expecting to get rammed!" see how she likes that texted to her. haha
Scots Taffer on 19/4/2007 at 03:13
You're young, she's young, you're both experiencing a massive flux of hormones which shift moods pretty suddenly (especially for dames, guys just tend to get AYM syndrome) and you're both growing fur where there was no fur before, good times, just ride it out (literally, lol).
jimjack on 19/4/2007 at 03:19
Well if there is to be any riding in the future..lol..after this trial the best part is just making like you have a bit of an authority on the subject without letting on. Yes I see good times ahead, and not particularly with her at this point. In anycase I trust that all "fur" is growing in the appropriate areas as well. At least Im no freak.
Nicker on 19/4/2007 at 04:11
Here's a handy script to try:
"I want to be sure I understand what you are saying. What I heard you say was { lay out what you think she said in your own words }. Does that sound right?"
Repeat until all has been rendered in plain language. If it remains head-messingly bad, try these.
"It's not you, it's me." "I'm not good enough for you." "I was a Nazi in my past life and proud of it." "I have an incurable, communicable disease."
Ko0K on 19/4/2007 at 04:51
Young chicks used to drive me nuts. Most of them, especially the pretty and complicated types, tend to be self-conscious, insecure and, well, complicated. At the same time, they are aware of the effect they have on men, and often experiment not so much to toy with guys but to learn more about this sexual power of theirs. Bitches. Anyway, you're not going to ride it out. You'll be run over by it and learn from the wreck. Heh heh...
Shug on 19/4/2007 at 05:05
As already cited - dames. :cool:
Remember son, treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen
wait, wasn't it "be caring and understanding"
oh shi
Pyrian on 19/4/2007 at 05:12
You're tackling and groping her and you can't understand why she's upset?
Dude, it's not that complicated.
daprdan on 19/4/2007 at 05:56
Quote Posted by User123abc
I experienced PHYSICAL PAIN from reading this thread.
I am laughing my fucking ass off!!!
Shayde on 19/4/2007 at 06:16
If she's not mature enough to tell you that she's uncomfortable as something happens, and discuss it rationally, then she is not mature enough for you to be fooling around with.
Tell her she needs to put on her big girl panties and learn to communicate like an adult or the relationship will never work. Granted that will lead to a swift and violent break-up, but then you get a chance to find a girl who is not a head case, so really it's win win.
