LesserFollies on 16/5/2006 at 13:41
YOUNG SCIENTISTS IN LOVE
make smart babies
congrats, you deserve all the best :)
tungsten on 16/5/2006 at 14:19
Physicist in Berkeley? Can't you bend some of your beams to actually beam yourself over?
If not, then get some conferences, collaborations and simply days off over there.
Do a project in a group at her place (learn a new technique you need, go and watch how your collaborators make the thing you need - just to understand what you're working with etc...)
Wish you good luck and please make those clever babies, the world needs more of them (besides, 1st gen. Asia-Europe-crossings very often look great too but for that we'd need a picture of her here :D)
Carini on 16/5/2006 at 14:23
What a great story, Marecki. Hang in there man and try not to let the pining overwhelm you.
Lacerta on 16/5/2006 at 14:38
It's worth sticking at it I think - give it a go. What's the worst that can happen?
I had a very long distance relationship for a year (14,000 miles - just about as far as you can go without coming back), we finally got together. Relationship went ok for a couple of years, then we split up about 6 months ago.
You can't find out unless you try.
L.
p.s. you say you think it's love because you didn't burden her with your troubles? To me it's important that you can share your woes with your other half and get some support - though I guess the stage you were talking about was really early on. Hopefully communication is a lot freer now?
shadows on 16/5/2006 at 15:00
Quote Posted by Briareos H
:cool: Important thing would be to know if she feels the same way.
Also, very heartwarming, Marecki.
I agree, but it's difficult to get a definite answer, short of asking... :erg: the problems of love... :weird:
I agree with Blackman, telephone is good, Internet is too impersonal.
Rug Burn Junky on 16/5/2006 at 15:09
I'm SURPRISED that tBm did not SUGGEST that Marecki use TELEGRAMS. stop.
MAYBE he's JUST uncomfortable with using SOMETHING as MODERN as the TELEGRAPH. stop.
Lacerta on 16/5/2006 at 15:24
Trust me - without the inflection put into the message by your voice, the meaning of emails can be misread very badly.
Plenty of examples around this forum!
Vigil on 16/5/2006 at 15:37
All relationship advice is worthless until after the fact (even as regards communication), so ignore pretty much everything in this thread except the good wishes.
I guess me and Morrgan are the poster-child of long-distance relationships. We spent 2 years jetting back and forth across the world for 3 months at a time (about 14000 miles too, New Zealand to Finland), and finally got married last year - allowing me to settle down here in Finland for good. I don't know a happier, healthier couple than us to be honest, and I wouldn't change it for the world. So go for it :)
Rug Burn Junky on 16/5/2006 at 15:41
Quote Posted by Lacerta
Trust me - without the inflection put into the message by your voice, the meaning of emails can be misread very badly.
Plenty of examples around this forum!
for instance your reading of my post stop
suggest looking up sarcasm stop
Stitch on 16/5/2006 at 15:51
Marecki: So wait--is this shit being reciprocated, or are you stuck in the friend zone? Are you guys dating or fucking or what? I'm not asking for salacious details but if it's pretty much been ALL FRIENDS ALL THE TIME it's highly unlikely things will change at this point.
Also: not to piss on the party, but the few long distance relationships I've tried have simply fallen apart, and as she's Chinese you might want to consider whether or not you and her line up in regards to what country you eventually want to settle down in. I know this shit seems mundane when you're young and in love but dear god you've got the cards stacked against you.
And also:
Quote Posted by Marecki
The fact that I pretty much jumped at the chance to find myself 500 kilometres away from her instead of 9000
You're in the states now dude what is this km shit
