Scots Taffer on 6/7/2009 at 00:05
Quote Posted by Subjective Effect
I guess what I'm saying is that this type of stuff has become popular/mainstream enough for non-weirdos to take part. Just like gaming.
I agree with this, but at the same time I agree that it's not the ideal set-up (hi, tell me everything about yourself in a minute and a half and based on that and the way you look, we might speak further) but really how different is that from what can happen in a lot of passing social encounters anyway (drinking at a party, bump into someone, the immediate up-down-appraisal followed by a few minutes of conversation - judgement made and move on).
However, my point was going to be that we're living in an increasingly segmented and insular society in many ways and while it's not impossible to find someone decent to date, in certain environments finding that person can be very tough (most pubs and clubs fall into these environs imo) and if you're unlucky enough to suffer from any mild social malady such as awkwardness, shyness, whatever, then some brute force exposure can be just the thing to get those people out of their shells.
Plus the upside is that if your date is horrible it only lasts 90 seconds as opposed to a blind date or stuck in a corner with someone at a party and you're left trying to find an escape route for the rest of the night.
That said, Speed Dating and Online Dating can be populated by some useless bastards too - my old flatmates used to call it Speed Shagging because they used it exclusively to hook up, pump and dump. I mean, there's a market for that everywhere, maybe those guys and gals should stick to the darkened dance floors where they can have a fumble and take it home and leave the actual DATING to people who want to know someone vaguely before sticking it in.
Kolya on 6/7/2009 at 07:58
All you who want to get laid for their awesome personality need to face the facts: If you see someone you rank them in less than a second into one of two categories, would do or would not. Whether that be on a speed date or on the dancefloor or at work is up to your likings. But that's how it is. And yeah, I know it's a terribly shallow world we've come to. Maybe you'd like to read a good book instead of having sex tonight.
Vasquez on 6/7/2009 at 08:36
Kolya is right, that magical chemical compound that makes attraction either is there or it ain't, and most people can instinctively sense it within seconds.
Recently I read about an actual study concluding that attractive people are likely to have more sex. Like, duh :p
Seems unfair, but we're still mostly animals.
D'Juhn Keep on 6/7/2009 at 08:57
Quote Posted by Vasquez
Kolya is right, that magical chemical compound that makes attraction either is there or it ain't,
Alcohol?
Angel Dust on 6/7/2009 at 09:06
Quote Posted by Vasquez
Kolya is right, that magical chemical compound that makes attraction either is there or it ain't, and most people can instinctively sense it within seconds.
Took my wife and I about 5 years before we sensed it. :p
Vasquez on 6/7/2009 at 09:45
Quote Posted by Angel Dust
Took my wife and I about 5 years before we sensed it. :p
Well true, it's not a 100% rule, but so common it still can be used as a rule ;)
At least the other way around - if someone is a total turn-off for you, to my experience (my own and also observation) it's very rare that you suddenly and completely change your mind about it.
Of course, there are hormonal things like a woman's cycle that might also effect on who feels attractive and when.
Scots Taffer on 6/7/2009 at 10:07
Quote Posted by Kolya
All you who want to get laid for their awesome personality need to face the facts: If you see someone you rank them in less than a second into one of two categories, would do or would not.
Would not.
But seriously:
Quote Posted by Kolya
Whether that be on a speed date or on the dancefloor or at work is up to your likings. But that's how it is.
Well, that's what I was getting at though, some people are looking for people on the dancefloor with only one thing in mind (mind you, same can be true of anywhere so I don't have
much of a point) however you're probably more likely (in a scale of suitable environments) to find someone interested in
getting to know someone at a speed dating or online dating as opposed to a nightclub.
d0om on 6/7/2009 at 13:58
Just post on TTLG long enough and you are statistically likely to at least date someone for a while, if not run away and get married!
Probably higher % than craiglist anyway ;)
Gussss on 6/7/2009 at 15:47
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you are shortchanging yourself, you have an opportunity to try new things, delve into the unknown, see what taboo's are all about. and all you can think about is w4m. you sir, need some excitement. good luck.
