thefonz on 5/7/2009 at 08:27
So whats the low down on these sites?
I'm kinda curious to give it a whirl as a "fast powered, high speed Londoner with no time for the usual faux-pax meangerie of traditional dating". Match.com seems to be the safest; but I dont know anyone else who does this.
I asume you sign up, fill out some lies about yourself, upload a photo of Jack Black as yourself and take it from there, casting aside all the nutters of course.
Do people have bad experiences with this? On another subject, I went to a speed dating night a couple of saturdays ago - it was hilarious the things people say at these things...saying that; still all for the traditional way (get her drunk and drag her back to the flat, caveman style.):thumb:
Vivian on 5/7/2009 at 11:53
I went speed dating by accident once (I just sat down at what I thought was an empty table while by friend went to the bar). I didn't get the full experience, obviously, but the problem with speed dating is that you meet a bunch of people with various kinds of social malady that prevent them from using the normal channels of achieving intimacy (or 'wierdos').
Muzman on 5/7/2009 at 13:38
Not that I'm a fan, but is that kinda the nature of the beast?: ie sit down and cram your "self", as you see it, into 90 seconds or whatever in a desperate bid to sell yourself to a complete stranger (while tipsy, usually).
Everyone's going to come across as odd doing that, surely.
I don't know. Wouldn't touch it with a barge pole myself. Still, what are the "normal channels" when they're at home?
Vivian on 5/7/2009 at 16:10
Booze, parties and flexing a bit (not too much). Fair point though, speed dating is inherently weird
Shug on 5/7/2009 at 16:49
Perhaps it does draw an odd crowd, but I suspect the environment isn't particularly productive anyway. Your best bet would be to rekindle (or start off) a reasonable social life, you'll meet people in a far more natural way and typically they're implicitly vouched for by mutual acquaintances.
Thief13x on 5/7/2009 at 17:11
FYI a buddy of mine was telling about how he met one of the best lays of his life on CL. Not sure if it was true or not, said it was under casual encounters, so who knows, not sure if she was as "decent" as he said either. Apparently they hook up now every few weeks for a night.
All I know is that if you look for housing on CL, you will find alot of weird shit. Take it a step further and try calling one of the few adds that are reasonable, you might be surprised. My housing search a few months ago was enough to turn me off to CL permanently for anything. I say stick to conventional ways of meeting women...that's where I've had luck, but that's just me and my irresistible charm...
SubJeff on 5/7/2009 at 17:31
A friend of mine met his very lovely wife on some dating site. He's an architect, she a lawyer, and they now have a wonderful son.
FYI I know a bunch of girls who used to go speed dating together in London every few months (if they were single at the time). All junior doctors, all normal, all hot. And the younger midwifes who work in a certain northern hospital in the UK all do online dating. Most of them are normal, some of them are very nice.
I guess what I'm saying is that this type of stuff has become popular/mainstream enough for non-weirdos to take part. Just like gaming. Doesn't mean the one YOU meet wont be a freak though.
Vivian on 5/7/2009 at 17:40
Like I say, my limited experience is based on accidentally gatecrashing an event at the pitcher and piano in Bristol. It took until the second random stranger sat down and started talking that I had any idea what was going on. I'm sure its possible to meet normals doing it, but I still mistrust it. Too functional.
fett on 5/7/2009 at 18:32
howie, I think frequent masturbation is a perfectly acceptable solution to your problem.
