Stitch on 16/2/2009 at 15:45
Well, I get the whole "best friend" spouse angle as there truly is nobody you're closer to, but fuck me if I can find a better way to express that you've replaced your testicles with a pair of tickets to "He's Just Not That Into You."
Dia on 16/2/2009 at 15:56
Guess I've been doing it assbackwards then. I fell in love with my first husband then realized after we were married and two small children later (damn biological clock!) that I really didn't like him at all (in every way possible except sex). Didn't like the man who became my 2nd husband, but ended up falling in love with him (against my will & better judgement) a couple months after we met. Our biggest problem was that we were too much alike in character & personality. That one would have lasted though, no doubt in my mind.
Queue on 16/2/2009 at 17:12
..."biological clock." What a horseshit expression (no offense to you, Dia). That's become some mating-cry for women with low self-esteem, whom desperately need to find a man and have kids in order to fill some imagined void in their lives. Pick up a hobby instead of mating and budding out a slew of snot-nosed bastards.
Rogue Keeper on 16/2/2009 at 17:23
You've never been a single woman over 35, ah Queue?
Actually me neither.
Kolya on 16/2/2009 at 17:55
Who's that hot new wave girl you brought along, Queue?
Dia on 16/2/2009 at 19:46
Quote Posted by Queue
..."biological clock." What a horseshit expression (no offense to you, Dia). That's become some mating-cry for women with low self-esteem, whom desperately need to find a man and have kids in order to fill some imagined void in their lives.
None taken. In my case I had more hormones than common sense (the first time around) - leaped first & looked later; that kind of thing. Happens to a lot of people. Never felt a 'desperate need to find a man' then and sure as hell don't now. A relationship with a man isn't how I define myself. Now or then.
Quote Posted by Queue
Pick up a hobby instead of mating and budding out a slew of snot-nosed bastards.
Now
that was harsh.
Queue on 16/2/2009 at 20:00
Probably t'was--but that's just how I see people that have kids only because, in my view, they, "...don't want to miss out on something."
Quote Posted by Dia
A relationship with a man isn't how I define myself. Now or then.
Too many women do (especially the young ladies--High School has become nothing more than a dating service.).
fett on 16/2/2009 at 20:12
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Yeah, while I didn't quite put it as bluntly as yourself in my previous post above I couldn't personally subscribe to the notion of "married bliss" because, like everything, it can be work sometimes but if there's always love behind it, that's how you get through it.
I've still got a lot of Jewish theologian left in me I guess because I also don't believe in married bliss. I think you don't so much fall in love as you choose to love and then stay that way. Even the word Greek word for 'love' is a verb - requires active pursuit and a conscious decision to act in ways that are self-sacrificial. Not much about it speaks to the emotions, though I've found that if you choose to stick with someone and get to know them well, you'll find that the emotions, thought they ebb and flow, feel a lot like what our culture defines as love.
Shit I am so stoned right now. Took some cold meds fuckaodno,.wha
Sulphur on 16/2/2009 at 20:15
fett is stoned and having sex AND married ITT
its like some hippy dream come true isn't it
