Starker on 16/7/2018 at 04:53
I don't know... I think him putting her hand back after she had pulled it away was way worse, for example. And that was the theme of the entire evening.
Sure, her performing sexual acts, however briefly (whether if was for a few seconds or more, the article doesn't say), was sending mixed signals. But if some of those mixed signals are "I'm scared and confused", IMO the only right thing to do is not to take it any further. Especially with someone nearly half your age.
uncadonego on 17/7/2018 at 10:13
Personally, when I was younger, I always considered any sign of anything less than an enthusiastic response a hard no. I was the youngest in my family, a mom and 6 sisters around me, and I overheard enough scary stories to get pretty sensitive to it. I know that sometimes girls have let guys put their arm around her just because she didn't want to hurt his feelings, and then all hell breaks loose.
Mr.Duck on 17/7/2018 at 22:25
Quote Posted by uncadonego
Personally, when I was younger, I always considered any sign of anything less than an enthusiastic response a hard no.
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Pyrian on 18/7/2018 at 02:39
Seriously, I wish someone had taught me about that when I was a kid. Would've saved me a lot of time and heartache pursuing people I never had a chance with (but wouldn't say that).
Tocky on 21/7/2018 at 15:58
It would seem I got so many enthusiastic responses I don't fully relate here. It just never came up somehow. I was always so out there with everything I said and felt there was no room for miscommunication. And I was perfectly happy with just being friends and enjoying the company. This race to the finish line for some imaginary high score or whatever the hell it is that makes guys push is just beyond my comprehension. Enjoy the moment. That is what life is and not some checking off of a box. "Dear diary; nailed her. There was something she was saying about snow or something but I wasn't paying attention. Now on to her sister."
There isn't a damn thing wrong with just being a woman's friend. Well, except for the part where they start touching you a lot and leave open ended sentences for you to fill and you are already in a relationship but you are a whore but also trying to be a good whore. Thankgod I'm old and ugly now. Just pity flirts and those are fine. Those are just women being nice. Women so often are and we don't appreciate it enough. I'm so beyond that age I shouldn't have responded here even. Waiting for WeTransfer to load my latest horror gig and needing something to do I guess.
Pyrian on 21/7/2018 at 18:03
Quote Posted by Tocky
It would seem I got so many enthusiastic responses I don't fully relate here.
Yeah, I've read some of your tales. ;) I can't really relate to them, either.
uncadonego on 22/7/2018 at 03:16
Tocky if that post was responding to me, it's unnecessary. Wasn't racing or pushing, ever.
Tocky on 22/7/2018 at 05:25
Oh no. I wasn't implying you were. I liked your post. I agree with your post. I just get puzzled with the idea of certain things sometimes. I'm off my footing trying to see things from another angle. Also I feel different in ways, being an extrovert sometimes, as if I don't quite fit in exactly. LOL imagine that turnabout. I like your thoughts and those of everyone who responded. Likely too I felt guilt at having taken the guys side. Better to err on the woman's side after all. Rest assured I think you are some fine fellows. If I didn't you should know by now I never hold back. In a room full of fine tooled instruments I'm a brick.
Gray on 24/7/2018 at 02:54
Quote Posted by Tocky
they start touching you a lot and leave open ended sentences for you to fill
You and I have had very different lives.
icemann on 24/7/2018 at 10:02
Haven't we all?