Enchantermon on 13/1/2006 at 19:14
Oh, man. I'm so sorry.....my prayers are with you both. :(
Enchantermon
Jakeyboy on 13/1/2006 at 19:18
I'm sorry to hear that dude, be strong.
Stitch on 13/1/2006 at 19:45
Barely arrived and already you've got the distance smacking you painfully in the face. I don't even know what to say.
Buy a calling card and be there as much as you can via the phone. And when the time comes, perhaps you could write something to be read at the funeral so that you're there, in some way.
I'm so sorry, man.
David on 13/1/2006 at 19:49
Damn, that's so sad. :(
MsLedd on 13/1/2006 at 20:02
As a friend and as one who has been there, my heart aches for you Scots. :(
My mother died from a brain tumor in 1998, and I would say in many ways she was like your grandma, most especially in the aspect that she was a very dignified and capable person who put her own discomfort and issues well below those of her family and friends. The 8 months that she suffered after an unsuccessful operation were a nightmare for all of us, and for Mom, I know it was adding the ultimate insult to her injury that her family suffered by sharing her pain and indignity.
So, despite the "bad luck" of the news coming when your circumstances prohibit your being there, I can honestly say that this is a blessing (and from what you've said about her, I think your Grandmother would wholeheartedly agree). She would want you and everyone to remember her exactly as you have described her here. She would also not want the joyous event of your child's birth associated with the agony of watching someone you love so deeply suffering her exit from this life.
Your description of her here is really an amazing tribute, which is beautifully written with obvious love and respect. I suggest you share it with her... I think she will find it an amazing gift.
God bless you darlin, and God bless Grandma.
Vernon on 13/1/2006 at 22:30
So sorry, Scots. :(
dreamcatcher on 13/1/2006 at 23:28
be strong, Scots, and think of the new life you two are about to bring into this world.
Jennie&Tim on 14/1/2006 at 04:10
Hugs for you.
Print out your post or put it on a CD, it will make a bit of family history for your baby to have. Write out some of those wonderful memories you have and send them to your Grandfather; he will appreciate them immensely. If you have them, make sure your Grandparents get copies of any ultrasound pictures; the future is what we have to cling to in the hard times, and there's nothing better than a baby to remind us of our future. Make certain they get pictures once the baby is born too, of course; but it sounds like she might not make it so long.
I'm so sorry, it's very hard to lose someone.
Scots Taffer on 14/1/2006 at 04:34
Thanks for the condolences folks. It's harder psychologically than emotionally at the moment. Dealing with the distance and with the finality of the time constraints is the hardest of all - but also, the thought that my Gran herself knows that she's not got long left to live. I'm particularly worried for my mother and sister who are both very close to her and live practically around the corner.
I take some solace in the fact that she has a lot of family around her and will be cared for deeply during these last few months. I'm hoping to speak to her on the phone as soon as today or tomorrow, and if it comes to it, I'd maybe get a message to the funeral. But yeah, sadness. :(
rsawarhawk on 14/1/2006 at 11:40
Shoot, I came in the thread and was goign to post how messed up my fridaythe 13th was but now its not important, sorry to hear all that scots, it always seems like everytime new baby is born it replaces someone of equal importance. may your firstborn have the strength and the will of your grandmother! :D
