Renegen on 25/7/2006 at 14:08
Well, maybe try making yourself happy with a few hobbies, a dream to chase, you need to create on that free time something to live for. A psychologist wouldn't be bad, maybe they're past problems you haven't confronted yet.
Dia on 25/7/2006 at 14:16
I agree with Scots & Banksie; go see a therapist or the equivalent thereof. Sometimes you just can't resolve personal issues and/or a serious state of depression by yourself. Drugs are (IMHO) not always the answer, because all your problems are right there waiting for you like a flock of vultures when you come back down again. I've always believed in treating the cause, not the symptoms (once again, just my opinion). The only risk in seeing a therapist is that you may become too dependent on him/her and start behaving like Bob Wiley. ;)
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http://i28.photobucket.com/albums/c240/Dia1/Bob.jpgUltraviolet has a valid point also; even though you may have no interest in anything much right now, forcing yourself to try something different, to become involved in something you might not have thought of involving yourself before this really is beneficial in the long run (just remember 'Baby Steps'). Keeping up your sense of humor helps a lot: a whole lot. Try to laugh at least once a day.
I'll spare you my own personal trials and tribulations Sypha; needless to say, I can identify with you to a degree and you definitely have my support.
Rug Burn Junky on 25/7/2006 at 14:30
You know what your problem is? You never really commit to anything and you always do things half assed.
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Sensations that I'll be trapped in this prison forever, or at least until death.
You have your answer. Don't wimp out this time, it'll be good for your self esteem to follow through and achieve something.
LesserFollies on 25/7/2006 at 14:41
The only people who are truly, blissfully happy in this world are selfish or stupid or both. Most people feel the way you do, to a certain degree. If you're dead-set against the medical route then try making a drastic change in your life. If you're still living at home, move out. If you're already out, move to a different neighborhood or city. Go back to school. A different job. Hang out at different places, with different people. I know these things are impractical at best and quite difficult when you're not feeling right, but it sounds like you need to do something. Don't forget regular exercise. And hang in there.
OnionBob on 25/7/2006 at 14:42
Quote Posted by Ghostly Apparition
You're stuck in the Matrix. FREE YOUR MIND!
..sorry..just always wanted to say that in a situation like this. LOL
...LOL
OrbWeaver on 25/7/2006 at 14:48
Getting a pet, such as a dog or cat, is supposed to help as well. Having a dependent creature to look after gives you a sense of purpose beyond simple survival.
Hewer on 25/7/2006 at 18:10
I say OrbWeaver is exactly right. Drugs are useful to help get you into a position to work on the root of the problem, and absolutely shouldn't be relied on for the long term.
And I've seen having pets really help my wife. We're having problems getting pregnant which is really hard on her on top of her Seasonal Affect Disorder that she's developed over the past few years. The animals really give her a purpose, responsibility, and something to focus on. It helps her too that, even though I've always been totally nice to them, they still know I don't like them and flock around her for 'protection'.
And Wierd Al wins. If you can have a chuckle at that, then you're not lost. :thumb:
Sypha Nadon on 25/7/2006 at 21:15
Well, of course, a psychiatrist might be a good idea (or therapist or whatever). It's just a matter of finding a good one (not to mention affording one!) The only problem is, my poor health drains me of so much energy that I become very lethargic and doing the most simple tasks takes a lot out of me. And I think I've identified most of my problems as it were. I hate my job, hate the fact that I'm dependent on my parents, hate the fact that I'm a psychopath re: my health.
Thief13x, I can relate to what you mean by holding back. Though in my case it's not so much tears as it is anger. Some people just piss me off so much that it takes all my effort to not say something sarcastic. The strain of keeping my emotions in check has taken quite a toll on me, as you can imagine. Sometimes I wish I had an escape route like others have: Drugs, alcohol, cutting, suicide, whatever, though all those are pretty harmful to one's health! Ah, I miss college...
MrD, re: Men wanking. For the first time, I decided to check out some, well, what one would call "hardcore" pornography, for both sexual orientations (I've looked at softcore stuff quite a bit, but never any stuff involving actual penetration or fucking). It was kind of... I dunno. Kind of squeamish. It grossed me out, not on a moral level, but a biological one. All those gaping orifices, uh... And I saw some guy getting jerked off by another guy, and his penis grew really large (I mean REALLY large) and... it started to change colors or something. Yikes! Having said that, I don't fret over the fact I'm a virgin all that much anymore (it's not my fault society puts such a huge emphasis on sex). I'm not saying it wouldn't be good for my health, I'm just waiting for the right moment. Frankly, I'm such a mess emotionally right now it would probably just screw me up even more.
quinch, I'd love to be more of a risk-taker, but I've never really been an impulsive person like that. I'm obsessed with schedules and knowing exact routes to places and all that (planning ahead).
Renegen, I do have a dream to chase: I want to be a writer one day. Well, I should say published writer, as I've written quite a bit. Going into this year I had two resolutions, which were: Get something published, and write a book. Amazingly, the year's only half done and I've kinda done both: A short story of mine is due to be published in an anthology at the year's end, and a few weeks ago I finished a 300+ page novel (and you say I can't commit to anything RBJ).;) Of course, my stuff isn't very commercial and giving how conservative the publishing industry is today, I don't see Simon & Schuster coming my way anytime soon. I guess I'll have to look into smaller publishers or maybe self-publishing (I hear that stuff like iUniverse and Lulu are big these days). So, I do have some sort of a dream, as it were. It's just, I'd rather spend my time writing then, say, working retail (as an act of defiance I've begun writing in a notebook during my breaks at work, then transcribing when I get home, so I don't feel like I'm wasting my time there).
Dia, oddly enough I saw "What About Bob" for the first time in a long time a few weeks ago. I found I had way more sympathy for Richard Dreyfuss' character now then I had as a kid. Weird.
Lesserfollies, yeah, I'd love a place of my own. The only problem is that apartments and housing costs are so damn high these days. I have about $4,000 saved up, but I don't think that's enough for me to get by on my own. And I'd love to quit my job, I'm just having a lot of trouble thinking about what else I could do. I'd love a job that would require some type of artistic creativity, but such things seem hard to come by in Rhode Island. Plus, given my health at the moment, I'm not sure I could withstand the stress of quitting one job and starting another. You know, now that I think about it, quite a few of my co-workers who are my age are still living with my parents too, one of whom is 30. So in this regard I'm not a total freak, at least.
Orbweaver, I'm actually a huge animal person (also a huge insect person) and the house I live at has a dog and two cats. I'm a little envious of the cats, actually. They have it so easy!
As for anti-depressents, all I can think of is Brian Wilson and how he looks like such a zombie when he performs live these days. I'd hate to be like that.
Strangeblue on 25/7/2006 at 22:38
Quote Posted by Sypha Nadon
Have you ever had moments in your life, maybe even long periods of time, where everything seemed, I don't know, hopeless? A feeling that you're... trapped, in a reality you despise? Moments of time in which you're utterly disgusted by everything around you?
Well, yeah.
But I know you don't mean it, so I let you live.
Get outside some. Change your routine. Don't just sit here and whine at us. Talk to a person in person.
Ghostly Apparition on 25/7/2006 at 23:10
Quote Posted by OrbWeaver
Anti-depressants are a temporary solution, that might help you gain enough motivation to seek proper, long-term help. They are
not a cure, only work effectively in about one third of patients (with a limited, partial effectiveness in a further third), and will not solve the problem permanently.
Consider anti-depressants to be the equivalent of bailing out a leaking boat for long enough to reach a harbour, rather than fixing the leak.
There has been so much mis-information about anti-depressants in this thread I feel a bit compelled to better inform you.
If your just feeling a bit overwhelmed or something then sure they may be a temporary solution only. However, If you actually suffer from whats called clinical depression, then the only real solution is anti-depressants. Depression isn't something that a friend can just cheer you up from, rather, clinical depresssion is a chemical imbalance in the brain. anti-depressants help correct that imbalance.
The tricky part is finding the right anti-depressant to treat your depression as alot of them do have bad side effects in some people. Talk to your doctor.
Find out if you do have depression and get help for it.
