TafferLing on 24/5/2007 at 16:32
Quote Posted by jasee
Thats true Lesserfollies,
but if I had done that and she had blown me out, we wouldn't have had our boys.
I was wrong and I admit that...cant dress it up any other way.
but point well and truly taken
Jasee
An error may be forgiven.(esp. after 10 years)
it's not that you were wrong like a cheater caught red handed that promises "I won't do it anymore".
You were wrong and you managed to end your error because of her!
She didn't forgive you, and she wouldn't have even if you told her your problem right away.
Don't take ALL the burden on yourself, it wouldn't be fair...
37637598 on 24/5/2007 at 16:44
Quote Posted by jasee
Any thoughts?
Grenade + This new guy = no more new guy. I can get ahold of some grenades if ya'd like... or a bazooka.
Thats very un-fortunate, i'm sorry shit blows down like it does. My parents are going through some crap right now too... Why can't people just get along?
Mingan on 24/5/2007 at 19:42
People change, make mistakes, have confused feelings, etc...
Married couples of yore were putting up together because of society/religion. The make believe would eventually build tension and bad atmosphere for everyone. Today, sometimes couples get divorced before things get hairy, and that's for the best for both and the eventual kids.
SD on 24/5/2007 at 20:18
Quote Posted by jasee
But, I still lied to her, and thats the point so I cant make excuses.
I think you
are making excuses. Lies or no, if she still truly loved you, she'd forgive you and (if necessary) help you get off your drug habit - not bugger off and leave you. Sounds to me like the love was gone from your relationship long before the drugs thing reared its head.
In any case, if you have a wife who's going to get pissy about moderate recreational drug use, you're probably better off without her. Find someone more open-minded next time who accepts you for who you are, warts and all.
Kolya on 24/5/2007 at 22:27
Seconded.
TBE on 24/5/2007 at 22:53
My advice is to take what you've learned from this, and grow.
You can either hide things from your loved ones in the future, because you know it will end up like this. OR
You can change the way you act with your significant other. Truth is usually the best. But at the same time you don't want to let too much water out of the floodgates at first. Try to be open about your expectations for your new wife/girlfriend when you get one. Ask her to tell you what she expects from you as well. Don't beat about the bush, because there's no sense in not telling your wife/gf what you expect of her and yourself.
BrokenArts on 25/5/2007 at 03:58
Quote Posted by SD
I think you
are making excuses. Lies or no, if she still truly loved you, she'd forgive you and (if necessary) help you get off your drug habit - not bugger off and leave you. Sounds to me like the love was gone from your relationship long before the drugs thing reared its head.
In any case, if you have a wife who's going to get pissy about moderate recreational drug use, you're probably better off without her. Find someone more open-minded next time who accepts you for who you are, warts and all.
I don't even know where to begin with this post. You are sooo one sided. :tsktsk:
Scots Taffer on 25/5/2007 at 04:02
No, no, no. Strontium Dog was myopic... THIS IS SD.
Stitch on 25/5/2007 at 04:12
Actually, in this case Strontz is right.
If she truly left him because he privately indulged a bit years ago, then he's better off without her.
The moral of the story? Either keep your secrets or marry someone with a realistic attitude regarding drugs.
Turtle on 25/5/2007 at 04:21
Wait.
That's Strontium Dog?
I thought this was some new idiot.
My world is a little more at peace tonight.
None of that changes the fact that he's right, however.
