Dia on 7/5/2006 at 13:33
I agree with Convict. True, your family is still the same, but once you've resolved an issue that was seriously affecting you emotionally and mentally, you're in a position where your attitude and reaction to as well as treatment of them can change into something more positive, for yourself if no one else. That's what it all comes down to, right? How you feel/think about yourself.
PigLick on 7/5/2006 at 14:02
no need to change your name then, is there?
wait no, you are totally right! you do what you need to do
Shevers on 7/5/2006 at 14:07
I'd get into the deep seated moral issues, but I think it's more wise if I just say "Yay, TNT" and slink away again.
Yay, TNT!
Convict on 7/5/2006 at 14:21
Piglick is older and more experienced than TNT, Dia? and myself and therefore he may well be speaking from experience he has seen with other people he knows. I am seeing it from the emotional before-hand side of things and to my mind it seems fair enough, however Piglick may have seen someone in this situation after they change their name for the same reason.
Dia on 7/5/2006 at 14:42
Accepted. But my husband changed his surname for pretty much the same reasons and it definitely had very positive results for him. I realize that's just the extent of my experience on the subject, but it kind of sounds like NT is taking a step in an emotionally positive direction as well.
Piglick did end up agreeing, right? Or was he just flirting?
PigLick on 7/5/2006 at 14:51
was that Convicts first zing?
LesserFollies on 7/5/2006 at 15:37
My sister and I went through that when our dad waltzed out on our mom (and yes, waltzing it was; he gleefully went off to start a new life with a much younger woman, and never stopped to look back at the smoking ruins he left behind). We didn't want to have the same name as the selfish creep. It was also a name that lent itself to a number of amusing mispronunciations. ¬¬
However, we never got around to doing it and eventually our dad got a grip, started acting like a responsible man, and in time had two more children whose last name we now gladly share. But some people never change, and you have to do what you have to do.
SD on 7/5/2006 at 18:06
Quote Posted by Convict
I dunno, maybe changing your name will help get rid of emotional baggage and stress
Dude, she's changing her name, not her gender ;)
Phydeaux on 7/5/2006 at 18:29
Quote Posted by Dia
Little Suzie Creamcheese. ;)
What's got into ya?
TheNightTerror on 8/5/2006 at 05:23
About the discussion earlier, I think the name change should clear things up with me. I chose my name 6 years ago, and never thought of anything else. I have no ties with that side of the family, either. Half of the living relatives my father disowned before I was born, the other half disowned me after I had my father arrested for hitting me.
Then, to top things off, I couldn't stand doing anything that required my name, because it's just too damned close to his. I could never even think about publishing a novel using that name, he doesn't deserve to have his name attached to even the world's lamest novels, which mine probably are. :p:sweat:
And the Mrs. Enchantermon thing is going to give me nightmares.
